SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT EVERY MOM NEEDS

SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT EVERY MOM NEEDS 

We moms are always in a roller coaster. Whether it is every day school, Every day tiffin for Mr. Hubby, bath and feed to your little one, feeding the elder one in a family and...list will go on and on ......

Roller coaster ride. 

We all need our support system. Every mom should have at least one support system to PAUSE, REFRESH and to RESTART.

But the question is how ?

A support system is actually a person with whom you can relax, cry, laugh, travel, have fun and recharge yourself. 

We have to find one person who brings joy to our face. 🥰

Why is this Support System required?

In simple terms to maintain our mental health. 

Yes.

It is very important to take care of our mental health as we are catering to many services of mom, wife, daughter in law, chef, laundry woman, decorator, party organisers, nutritionist and many more.

The more responsibility the more mental load. 

And so we need our support system.

To,

1) Reduce stress :

Our support system helps in reducing anxiety and stress. Just spending time with your loved one increases your happy hormones and so is the mood.

2) Build Self Esteem:

While juggling with an all-to-do list our self esteem goes down. Sometimes we didn't recognise ourselves and so we are on the verge of losing ourselves.

Our support system, the one with whom we can talk, share our stress and take help as much as possible to rebuild our self esteem.

3) Emotional Support

We go through many emotional turmoil and all we need is one friend who understands our emotions and feelings. To vent it out we need that support. This supports not only lift you up in your difficult time but also being your guide and showing us the correct way.

4) Motivator 

Our support system is the one where we can find our motivation. The one person who motivates us thoroughly without any selfishness. Our support will aways tried hard to reach us at our destination. No matter how difficult the journey this motivator always Patt you and makes you ready for the ride.With this support we can reach out to our potential.

5. Improve health

With the right kind of support system our physical as well as emotional health also start healing and so improve our well-being.

We feel we are healthy and Happy.

I personally found the support system always boosted.  I have support system - Mr.Hubby, my friend and my daughter. With these people I overcome my depression. Found my way of living life and let out my stress in proper way. 

You are not alone. We all moms once goes through the depression, anxiety and our harmonal started to imbalance and that turned badly on our health. 

 

So find your support system which is always around you. Feel free to share your load with them and take care of yourself.

Question of the day.

We have different support system at different phase of life. Which one is the best support system you have in your life?

This post was created for the Blogaberry Creative (Monthly) Challenge.

This blog post is a part of the blog challenge ‘BlogaberryDazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Mads’ Cookhouse.

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REFLECTION 2023 and Goals for 2024

The last two three years I have been doing reflection for the previous year and it does really help me to evolve as a person, mother, wife for my family. So let's reflect on how our 2023 was.

Family Gatherings 

2023 started with small family getaways which was refreshing for us. Because due to pregnancy and postpartum our two years were so hectic that we didn't have a chance to socialize. The year started with family gatherings and off course lots of fun.

Emotional changes: 

2023 was also an emotional turmoil for me. My father' s demise. He struggled a lot. Still he managed to make video calls and talked with me. He had all his favourite meals. He played with my twins too for a very short period of time but he did it. 😞 He enjoyed all the cricket match with his phone calls.

I admire his capabilities.

We struggled to keep him alive and he was struggling to end his life. It was more painful to see him. And finally in May he left us. 

I am still not recovering. But he is not with us.😞

With his demise I saw lots of emotions up and down with  every relationship. Learning new things, recognising the persons and accepting them the way they are without any judgements.

Life at a New Place : 

This year was a major change of place for us as a family. We had been at this place for almost 10 years. Life was all set here, but destiny has something new for us. 

WE MOVE 

To,

New places, to new surroundings, left our comfort zone behind and again struggled to fit in a new place. 

But to my surprise, the new place was more relaxed. Especially for Mr.Hubby,  for my daughter. And so for me too.

Changes are always good. Right?

My daughters were very happy. The eldest one loved her school. She took one week to adjust with the new school with amazing and cooperative friends. We saw how happy she was !

And all I want is happiness for her. So her birthday was special. The way she always asked me. It was the first time she had her choice of friends all from her age group and they all made blast !

Grateful to the universe for her happiness! 💗

Meals 

I tried very few new recipes especially for toddlers. And I love the way they gobbled it. Able to create healthy meal options for my toddlers and feed them variation. 

With toddlers I also succeed in meal planning and almost have fresh homemade foods.

Home Pooja and Toddlers birthday:

Though we shifted in August but we were able to do our new gruha puja in December. And my twin toddlers second birthday at home within us. 

We went through the tough period of shifting and adjusting to a new place and so new life. I and Mr. Hubby learnt to enjoy things the way they came up rather than stressing in negative things. 

Grateful to the universe for every blessing.

New Goal for the Year 2024 

Baking : 

This year I want to learn new food specially baking items. Aiming to have more homemade bake foods and less ordered food.

Gatherings:👭👬

Mr. Hubby and I decided to have more gathering at home. We love when people and friends visit us. Already there is a huge queue waiting and so we are , OUR HOME is now ready to welcome the guest. 

Date with friends : 👩‍❤️‍👩

It's been years since I met my girlfriends. So this year I will try to arrange the meet ups as much as possible. And have my personal friend's life too. I will be more proactive. Making more phone calls and meeting in person.

Reading: 📖📖

I have started reading already. This year I have to finish reading books on my book shelf. I deliberately avoid going to book fairs so that I can concentrate on what I have and finish that first. 

Moreover I read on Kindle too. I love that digital reading also. More reading with particular numbers.🤞

And I want to search library near my area too. Hope to find it. 

Exercise: 🧘🏃

Yes! I did my yoga for last year very well. So with a little bit of confidence this year I want to do Yoga and some running. 

Crossing 40 and so Health is my priority. The goal is to workout at least 4 times a week for 20 to 30 minutes. 

More playtime and Read Aloud with twins : 

My twins turn 2. And it is more challenging to teach them, to create activities for them, to keep them screen free, to connect with them and most importantly enjoy with them. 

Planning lots of simple activities and speech activities for them. Read more books with them and this year I will be creating some new books for them. 

Writing📝

I love writing but sometimes I lost my track and was demotivated. I want to write more on my blog. Last year I entered the fiction writing world and so this year I wanted to learn as much as possible about fiction writing. One of the goals to participate in most blog hops and blog challenges.

Check out my poems too here and here 

Travel : 🧳✈️

I think we are now able to travel with our tiny toddlers. Planning to travel more a small vacation and one long tour. 

Dating with Spouse/daughter:

Last year we did Saturday Movie Date which works wonderful for us. That is the only way we can spend time with each other. 😐 Planning to have more date nights and more family walks. 

We will plan more dates with my elder daughter so that we can spend special time with her. 

Apart from this my major goals are : 

Working towards my dreams. 

More self-care and self pampering.

Buying more new clothes. Trying new clothes styling.

Taking care of my mental health.

Slow down and prioritize things.

Maintain a simple living without scrolling

Complete my K drama watchlist 😛 (Entertainment is major things)

Having mindfulness in living life.

Love to my family more. 

Find joy in each day and love more life. 

Have you reflect on the year 2023 ? Have you set any goals?

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THE CHRISTMAS EVE PARTY

The Christmas Eve Party 

PS : Pixel

Riya is a happy girl. She always has a smile on her face and is easily mixed up with people. Christmas Eve is the most memorable day of her life. For the whole month she put the music of jingle bell (musical tone) as her caller tune for the mobile. She loves every small thing related to Christmas. Though she is not Christian but she is fascinating to all Christmas things since her childhood. She loves the jingle bells and the Christmas Tree. She had a collection of different sizes and textures of jingle bells. She always wanted to meet Santa Clause when she was little,

And,

She met her love, Soulmate "Neel" at one of the Christmas Eve Parties. She found herself lucky to have Neel in her life. Though it was for a short period of time, the memory of the duo keeps her happy forever. They had been separated within 6 months but every Christmas brought lots of happiness in her eyes with unforgettable memories. 

She  remembered the way they spend days together. They are not like teenagers, they don't have time to have endless conversations on the phone or on text but yes they do share a special bond of love. And they felt they were perfect for each other. Soulmates 💞

All these memories bring tears to Riya's eyes. And the mobile bell rings. Jingle bells jingle bell jingle all the way ! (Musical bell).

She picked up the call and it was her friend inviting her for a Christmas Eve party at her college. The party with her college friends and she accepted the invitation with a hope that she might meet Neel. 

It was a very short notice invitation but Riya managed to wear a comfy outfit with minimum make up. She is just a lipstick and a kajal girl but when she puts it all together she looks gorgeous. This was the compliment from Neel. And she remembered every time whenever she used to get ready for any occasion. 

Is this love ?

Not being with your loved one but living with the memories? 

She always wondered but never wanted to come out from that world. 

The world of love, which does not exist in the real world, but in her imagination. She believed to stay there as much as she could because it made her happy and calm. She is not crying anymore to have him rather happy with the memories. Because for her it was the best day in her life where she was actually happy with Neel.

Christmas Eve evening has arrived. Riya changed almost three outfits and  finally decided to wear the white long maxi dress in which she looked elegant and classy with a minimum statement piece. She wore a black pearl bracelet and a black watch. And ready to rock the party. 

Riya drove her scooty to the college, parked at the parking lot and entered the college. The Christmas Eve Party was on the terrace. She waited near the elevator. The elevator came and she got inside. Only one lady was there in sarri. She looked at her and smiled. She presses the top button. The elevator started and stopped at the 2nd floor. Neel was there. She stumbled and looked in his eyes. He also looked happy to see her and as he entered the elevator he came close to her. She closed her eyes and he kissed her forehead. 

Riya was surprised. It was the same Neel who didn't want to hold even a hand in the public place and now in front of a stranger he kissed her forehead. They both looked at each other without uttering a single word. And the elevator reached the venue's. 

Everyone was cheering with loud music and both got separated as they didn't know each other. Riya mixed with her friends and Neel mixed with his friends. They spend time separately in the same party without looking even at each other.

Is this love ? Riya wondered.

PS : Pixel 

The Christmas Eve Party had a variety of food, drinks including soft and hard drinks and music. Riya enjoyed her friends. She was very happy to saw Neel at Eve. Everyone was wishing Merry Christmas and Happy New Year and saying goodbye. Soon the party hall was vacant . Riya sat on the table alone with her drink. She lost in her thoughts. Neel came slowly and hugged her from behind. Riya smiled. She loved the warmth. Neel was looking at her drink. She stared at him and with a smile said, 'soft drink only, no alcohol! 

Neel smiled. There was no one. The party hall is vacant. Riya realised it was too late. The mobile bell rang, the musical jingle bell - the call was from her dad. She took it and She said, Neel shall we leave?

There were tears in Neel's eyes. Beautiful sweet memories with these jingle bells came in front of his eyes. Riya and Neel's love story start with these jingle bells only.

Jingle bells jingle bell...!

Neel staring her without blinking her eyesight. 

And,

He grabbed her and kissed her on the lips. Riya got goosebumps, she felt the same breath and warmth in his kiss. She kissed him back too. Riya wished him Merry Christmas and Happy New Year my love. He also wished her, Happy New Year dear!

And then they get separated.

In opposite directions. 

As they were strangers. 

Is this love ? 

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You may like to read : 

The Door Bell

Memory Lane 

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BLW RECIPE: VEGETABLE CHILLA 8 MONTH+

Chilla / Pancake we usually have for breakfast. It is protein packed and for me easy peasy can be prepared in 10 minutes.

I am sharing baby friendly chilla / pancake recipes. First you make it for the baby and then add spices accordingly for the adults portion. 😉 smart work. Always sit as a family to eat the same food. 

This recipe may not be new to you all. But feeding to your baby might be new to some moms. Believe me your baby will love it. It is tasty and non messy ,😜. If you want your kids should explore with food try such non messy food which are full of nutrients. 

Without further ado, let's jump into the recipe.

Vegetable Chilla ( 8 months + )

Ingredients :

1 cup besan

2 tbsp grated carrot 

1 tbsp onion finely chopped

2 tbsp grated beetroot

1 tbsp chopped tomato

1 tbsp chopped coriander leaves

Salt as per taste (skip if baby is below 12 months)

Black pepper powder 1/8 tsp

Jeera powder: 1/8 tsp

Turmeric powder: 1/4 tsp

Kitchen King masala : 1/4 tsp

Water to make a slurry as per requirement

Direction:

- To begin, Mix all ingredients in besan. 

- Add slowly water and make slurry.

- Heat a skillet and apply some ghee.

- Pour 1 spoon of batter and spread a little bit.

- Make a small size pancake and drizzle a little bit of ghee from the side 

- Cover it for a minutes

- Then flip it and toast until it becomes crispy.

Your vegetable loaded chilla is ready to serve. Cut it into long strips and serve it as finger food. 

You may like to read easy and realistic BLW recipe: 

9 to 12 months baby food chart 

Tomato Cheese Omlette

Palak Chilla

Kids/baby approved breakfast ideas 

Which vegetable do you prefer to have in your and baby breakfast? 

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Dr. Preeti Chauhan

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SATURDAY MOVIE DATE NIGHT AT HOME #102

Happy Friday!

Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” 

— Ferris Bueller’s Day Off

 

Watching a movie at home is now our favourite part. It not only rejuvenates but also gives the feeling of accomplishment of the necessary reset for the next week. 

Not every week we watched a movie but yes trying to watch mostly. And yes, we are not watching only new movies. We tend to watch old movies also. I always make a watch list and according to my time.😁

Because I am Mom and Wife.  So priorities matter but at the same time I tried to entertain myself watching movies and series on Netflix or hotstar. I tried to watch a simple and halki fulki movie which did not give too much stress. I like to watch comedy, suspense, and family movies. A love story is not my kinda favourite.

This time we watch the Marathi Movie which I think should go for Oscar Nominations. I wanted to watch it for a very long time  but I didn't get any chance. Finally I watched it and wanted to store it on my blog as a review for you too. 

Many of you may be watched or many of you may not know about this movie. So give a read and make sure to watch at least one time. I am hundred percent sure you will love it. 

Movie Name  : Vaalvi

Language : Marathi

Type /Genre : Thrill Comedy 

Stars : Swapnil Joshi, Anita Date, Shivani Surve and Subodh Bhave

My rating : * * * * 

Storyline : 

Movie start with suicide attempt by  husband and wife by putting gun on their head. Whereas the wife is dead because her gun has bullets and the husband's gun is empty. And that is the gripping part of the entire movie. 

Aniket (Swapnil Joshi) and his wife Avani (Anita Date) are a couple who decide to end their lives together. But this is the plan set up by Aniket's dentist girlfriend Devika (Shivani Surve). The murder is being executed by both Devika and Aniket and rehearsed many times so that it will look like as a perfect suicide without any proofs. However, the best laid plans go awry when they find someone playing with them. And then the real game begins. 

How do they deal with this person ? Do they become successful in murder? Is Avani dead? Does their murder plan work out very well ? 

Yeaaa, the 1 hr 45 minutes movie gets you hooked till the end.

Message of the Movie : 

Vaalvi means termites. The term has been used to  convey the meaning of how everything can be slowly but steadily destroyed from within - it may be human relations or your house. Do shield yourself from this termite as soon as possible.

What I Like ? 

I like the way the movie ends. That is the turning point of the movie. Suspense keeps you at the bar and you are eager to know what happened next? Every actor and actress played a brilliant role. The natural acting is the major attraction of this Film. 

Final Word: 

Anita Date is the brilliant actor. The way she showed herself as a psychic is awesome. 

Swapnil has the best role in his entire life. I never saw him as a villain but yaa he is so natural and terrific. I love his character.

Subodh Bhave plays a very psychic Doctor but he actually looks like a  psychic. I always wonder if the psychologists are psychic then how can they treat the patients? 😜

Shivani is the best played character in the whole movie. The culprit who is assertive and pushes everything on these two people. The best villains female awards must go to her.

" Murleyla kalkarasobat tine baji marali "

Okay, 

If you love suspense and thriller movies then this is for you. 

Where?

At OTT : Zee 5 

With English subtitle 

Movie: Vaalvi

Director: Paresh Mokashi

I do watch movies only for entertainment purposes. But this is unforgettable. One of the best movies from my point of view.  If you love this segments then please also check this one : 

Saturday Movie Date Nights at home #101 OMG 2 

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Dr. Preeti Chauhan.

Do you watch Movies? Which one is an unforgettable movie for you ?

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40 + EASY RANGOLI DESIGN

Diwali is incomplete without Rangoli. As title suggests EASY RANGOLI DESIGN  so you will see the easiest and simple rangoli design in my today's post.

Rangoli is an art which is still practiced today by everyone. Rangoli is the most important part of our culture. Generally rangoli are drawn in front of the entryway of our home. It is believed to be prosperous to draw a rangoli during any celebration like festival, marriage, Pooja etc. It is the significance of clearing negativity at the entrance of your home. Specially in Diwali drawing a rangoli in front of office, shop, and home serve a religious and symbolic purpose - to welcome Lakshmi, the Hindu goddess of wealth, as well as any visiting guests. Rangoli can have other meanings, too, including bringing good fortune and keeping evil at bay!

How Rangoli is made up of ?

Rangoli is a pattern made on the floor with white colour. Then the design is filled with colours. Most of the rangoli designs are consist of plants, flowers, leaves such as coconut, lotus, mango, and ashwath (peepal), animals such as cows, elephants, peacock, and birds like swans. There are geometrical designs as well. The whole rangoli looks beautiful when it is accompanied by flowers and diya. It is one the most delightful images we saw in front of every house in Diwali.

Now days rangoli can be drawn in many patterns. Geometric, flowers, free hand, mandala form, sanskar bharati, kolam, and many more types. Every state has its own design and rituals. 

I still remember how I learnt to draw a rangoli from my mother. She used to draw simple but mostly free hand rangoli and I always spend the whole day practicing that. When I was in 8th standard I started to draw a big rangoli. I almost spent 2 to 3 hours drawing it. At that time there was no internet and YouTube. But we drew from the book. Still we can find the rangoli books in Diwali. And I took it, saw every rangoli and kept it back in the bookshelf 😁 

Now I really don't get that much time. I  love to draw rangoli but as a toddler mom it is almost not possible for me. However I try to manage to draw a simple entryway rangoli. 

 Any one feeling like this ?

Are you searching for simple easy rangoli design and then getting lost in the world of social media? And then finally you forget to draw or demotivate? 

Then this post is for you. I have a collection of simple yet less time consuming rangoli designs for everyone. Like a beginner, an expert or who is looking for a simple rangoli or a busy working mom who is always in a hurry. Please go through the post and I guarantee you that this Diwali you can draw rangoli instead of bringing stickers of rangoli. 

So let's Start ,

Things you require are white rangoli and colour and rangoli tools which is easy to use and available at every market. 

Easy Rangoli from Swastik 

 Easy flower Rangoli designs 

Some peacock Rangoli designs

Easy simple Rangoli designs with Diyas and Kalash 

Easy Dots Rangoli 

PS : Google and Menkas Rangoli

I hope you all like my collection from the various artist from Google. I tried to put most simple and beautiful easy rangoli design for you all. 

Questions of the day?

Do you like to connect with rituals and our culture? 

Happy Diwali to all my readers 

from Memory Flies 🌟⭐✨

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’
hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Dr. Preeti Chauhan

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