5 THINGS TO BE LEARNED FROM QUEEN

Hello and happy Saturday! 

One of my favorite and most successful Bollywood films is Queen. It is the story of a Punjabi middle-class girl, Rani, who is left heartbroken. Her fiance calls off the wedding right after her mehendi ceremony. Then she decided to go on a honeymoon alone in Paris. It is the journey of self-love and self-growth of Queen, aka Rani.

                          

After watching this movie, every girl should learn these five things. I was happy to see her happy with her new self-discovery. 

 

PLOT OF THE MOVIE:

RANI is a naive girl who grew up in a stereotypical family. She is followed everywhere by her brother, who is smaller than her. She can't make decisions on her own. For everything, she had to ask her parents. 

 

Vijay, her fiancé, convinced her to have dinner with him. He is the one who has followed her since college. And suddenly, he calls off the wedding right after the mehendi ceremony. Then she decided to have a solo honeymoon, picked up her bags, and explored the bad world.

 

After watching this film, I can relate to so many things. Sometimes I ask myself, Will I be able to travel solo? Do I have the courage to change my life by myself? Do we really need a man in our lives? Though I am both a mom and a woman, some questions are always there. 

 

5 THINGS TO BE  LEARNED FROM QUEEN 

1. DON'T BE AFRAID TO STEP OUT OF COMFORT ZONE : 

 

After breaking her marriage, Rani decided to travel to Paris for Solo Honeymoon. The girl never wandered alone in her neighborhood, but she wanted to travel to Italy all by herself. 

 

And she did it very well. The first step was to get out of the comfort zone. She found many difficulties, but she learned many things during this journey.

 

2 SOLO TRAVEL ADVENTURES 

 

Yes, solo travel is an adventure. I am still not able to make up my mind about solo travel. Solo travel teaches you lots of things. Traveling to unknown places, meeting different kinds of people, learning about new cultures, and collecting various experiences all contribute to your personal growth. It changed our perspective on life, which transformed our personalities. 

 

3. THE FREEDOM 

Freedom is what all women want! Since our childhood, then entering adulthood, and after getting married, even after becoming mothers, our freedom has always been locked by someone. 

 

This movie taught me that you should experience freedom once in a life may be for short period. Freedom means you can do what you want to do. You can live the life of who you are and not pretend. 

Freedom makes you strong, independent, and brave. Freedom makes you free from a constantly nagging world. You can learn many things from your mistakes, and that will be your own growth experience. 

 

4. BE FIRM IN YOUR DECISION:

When Vijay understood that Rani went on solo, Honeymoon tried to contact her. Try to persuade her to be with him. He forced her to leave her friends and be with him, but Rani was firm on her decision. Without giving any explanation, she chose to be by herself.

 

We should learn to be firm in our decisions. No matter what the situation is, we should always respect our decision and try to be firm on it. 

 

5. BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF : 

When she returned her engagement ring and left Vijay, that was one of the most beautiful scenes of the movie. I can feel her happiness. It shows a girl doesn't require a man to be happy. She has enough for her happiness. 

Through her solo honeymoon journey, Rani evolved and found the new version of herself, which was a happy girl. The journey of self-discovery is tremendous. 

 

We always have to be ourselves. Kick out the judgment of society and be the best version of yourself. 

 

WRAP UP : 

The movie's plot revolves around self-discovery and self-growth. There are many things that we women can learn from this movie. Queen teaches you that the world is going to be the way it is. After all, it is your choice. What we experienced and learned It added to our self-growth. 

Question of the day 

Have you watched Queen? What do you learn ?

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Contribution To The Society

Life is not about what you get but it is about what you give. You have to give out to the society - in any form. It is a contribution to the society.

Contribution to the society

Contribution means giving back to the society. We live in the society where everyone has a need of something. Not every single person is blessed to have everything in his life. The contribution means the act of giving, sharing, donating, helping, counseling or mentoring at free of cost. 

Why we should contribute?

We live in a community. And it is our duty to help our community in the various way whenever it is possible. It is our responsibility to serve our community without intentions of any monetary benefits.

How our contribution help to our society?

Our little help will change their present situation. It will encourage them. By helping our community we can become a good person. This is the way we came to know how we are as a person and can fit into this society or not?

Though we have a job and we pay our tax on time besides that we should positively contribute to the society irrespective of any disaster. Means you don't need to contribute only when there is flood, tusanmi or hurricane. Apart from that in your day to day life look out for those people who need your help. We can able to fulfill at least their basic need. 

Okay.

Yes, I really believe in helping the needy one. We means me and Mr. Hubby try to help as much as possible to them whoever ask help. We think this is the way we can be a good human being and contribute a little to the society.

The 6 way I contribute to our society. : 

I am sharing my experience. Generally we do not share our contribution. It is always on silent mode. But I want to document these small things on my blog post as a memory. It will help to upgrade our contribution in coming year. 😊 

1. Give free tuition :

 I believe in India Education and Hospitals should be free of cost. But that is the place where more money bluff happened. I gave free tuition since I started from my college day. I still remember I used to teach to mason's small kids free of cost. We had construction works near my colony and so these people live with the families. I saw many small kids playing in a sand. Then I went to play with them and start basic teaching without cost.

2. Purchasing things without bargain:

I do this kind of purchase specially in fair. This value is transfer from my Hubby. He believe they came to set up their shop in fair in order to earn money. They are so poor and why do you need to bargain. Earlier I used to tease him but after some time I convinced and apply the same rule.

3. Giving food to street kids :

We saw many kids on railway station or on street. They beg for money. Instead of that we used to give them chocolates, cakes, sweets, fruit whatever food present in nearby area. It gives the immense pleasure.

4. Donate Clothes :

I am huge declutter fan. In every six months I am decluttering clothes. Earlier I used to give it to some Orphanage people, who used to come at door step to collect clothes. 

I gave clothes to our housekeeping men's and womens. Many times I have been told why you giving them? 

But I know and I saw most of the time these clothes are used by them only. No matter if they sold or getting any benefits I will be the happy person.

5. Donate kids toys, books, stationary, shoes : 

As a mom we all have piles of the above mentioned things. Since my daughter born we had a huge bag of stationary, unused toys and books.  When she outgrow I generally kept one bag and toss everything which she don't use. Till date I am doing this. I used to donate clothes, shoes, toys to the poor kids who live in slum areas. 

Mr. Hubby know this area and used to go there for such donation. When he went there a group of small kids gather around his bike and he felt so happy by donating such items. 

6. Helping Teenage via counselling : 

Me and Mr. Hubby gone through a lot of struggle for education and job. With blessing of Almighty we are happy what we have today in our life. GREATFUL for that always. So whenever any teenager ask us ," Kaki /Kaka, want to talk with you! We always happy to listen them and help them.

Topic could be anything, but yes we listen them. They feel so relax and happy when it works for them. When we were teenager we don't have such support. We hesiste to talk with our parents. Still many teenager unable to have open conversation with parents. So I am always up with them. If they ask then only. I love to help them, guide them and show them correct way.

Do you believe in contribution? If yes, then what are the ways ? Comment.

Disclaimer :  This topic was by blog chatter blog hop. but unable to published it within that time. It is in drafts so sharing it now.

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When my alarm didnt ring this morning #BlogchatterBlogHop

It is the time Neeta, you can do it. Gear up and fly as high as you can! 

My heart and my mind both was telling me the same thing. I was  surprised how can both were in an one team. I was also assuring myself, Yes, ! Yes!  I am on it!

Took a deep breath and tighten the glasses, cap and parachute. Recalling all the steps the institute taught us. Closed the eyes and realizing the dream come true only in a matter of fraction and I will be soring up high the sky.

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One, two and three ......

I ran towards the end of the hill and jumped 😐😐 Then opened the parachute and in a seconds I was flying in the sky. 

Whhhooooo !! It's incredible!  What a lovely view !

Eagles are so close to me that I can clearly saw them the way they fly. 

I was wondering,  how can they hunt their prey so minutely from this height?Brilliance!  God's creation. 

And tapping on myself with a laugh... Haaa haaa, man made creation "Paragliding" 

It was so beautiful. The wavey cloud like the steam on a coffee, the hilly mountains were snuggled in the lushgreen blanket, and tiny beautiful homes at the ground, everything looks awesome. 

THIS IS A "PEACE "

No chaos, no pollution, no horns, no loud music, no babies crankyness, no shouting....PEACE - like I am sitting at meditation.

My mind is searching from a long time. Where there was no obligation no responsibility.

Just Me and My PEACE.

And suddenly the wind blow so fast. Fear was empowering and I fell down from the bed.😁 Rubbing my eyes and picked my baby on my lap.....

ho gayi Paragliding ☺☺

And I laughed, it was 8:00 a.m.

Tapping on my forehead and took a long breath and got ready to run, run and run😫😫.

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11 Memories of year 2022 #BlogChatterBlogHop

I read this quote on Google and realized the value of my power. 

2022 is the best year for me as it gives abundance - Love, and lessons.

When I started my blog I wanted to document yearly review but due to some boundaries unable to do that. I came across this blog hop by #blog chatter and my hands automatically goes to keyboard. 

2020 was the bitter year.  2021 was the blessing of 2020 and so I had my twin pregnancy in late 38's and 2022 is with my twins. Yeaa, had my twins in my arms safe, and healthy.☺ 

This year 2022 was more stressful for us. You will get to know how Twin mother can survive on her own while in her postpartum and motherhood journey.

But there were lots of happy moments I captured in my mobiles and after revisiting them we forgot our stress. Having twin is blessing. Sharing personal memories with hope that some of you can relate with us. And you can change the perspective towrds life. This year is all about my baby and baby and  baby.

Twin Pregnancy 

When I was in college I always wanted to have a twin baby. I was curious how the lady can have two tiny species in a womb. How can they survive inside the womb? And how that lady deliver the babies ? And guess what ? 

I experienced all this ☺ 

It is called "law of attraction " Universe always support you and you have to keep a faith. 

So here are my 11 memories of 2022 : 

1. January was the first month of 2022 where I survived independently with my twinnies. Unexpected things happened a lots and there was nobody to help me.  Being c section with two tiny babies I was emotionally deprived and physically drained. But the ladies from my family had no heart. This bitter memory - that you do everything good for your family but such heartless people do exist, Specially woman😑 is always hurt. ( Does it  happen with you?) 

I survived and realized my power💪🏻.

2. Achieved success in handling both of them for feeding. Yes I had a lots of struggle to breastfeed them, but with constant trial and error I was able to breastfeed these tiny little delicate babies. Only difficulty was to burp them at the same time. Again I called this was due to the affirmations.  I made positive affirmation during my twin pregnancy and one of them was to breastfeed my twins. I did almost tandem feeding. 

I learned that Affirmations do work. 

3. I am greatful to my cook. She is like a family and take care of me as my mother. Feed me on time with hot breakfast, lunch and dinner. Though we pay money to them but not everyone can take care of you as a family. And this time where we did not have real family, she was the savoir.🙏🏻

Good karma always pay you back.

4. In two and half month my babies turned on their tummy. Milestone of my babies like neck part, turning on one side, crawling,  gaggling and many more - achieved so fast and quick. Intentionally control myself for not sharing any of these precious moments on social media.

Learned we can not document everything.

5. My caring Partner Mr. Hubby : I know my husband loves me a lot but second time realize that how much he was emotionally connected with me. My late twin delivery in 39's was challenging. And where no elderly people with us he was constantly with me. Keep me happy and motivated every time. 

Greatful to God for such wonderful Partner.

6. My matured elder one who were witnessed  of everything. But glad that she took only happy part of being a big sister. This one was the bitter memory where she was with us in every up and down phase of life. She learned a lots of about family peoples and relations.

I learned from her how to choose joy because life is always difficult.

7. Able to celebrate diwali with my twins. Able to drew rangoli, had deep cleaning of my house and got ready  with my 3 girls and hubby with our traditional way.

Able to stick with tradition, rituals and transfer it to the next generation. 

8. First time I had a babysitter/nanny inspite of having granny.  Becasue she was not interested to have grandchildren specially girl child. And, it is okay, for us.

Blessed to have loving nanny who take care of me and my babies like a family person.

It is okay to trust outsiders. They can be your big support.

9. Back to my cooking. I am greatful that I was able to cook and gave lunch box to my hubby. He had been eating out for more than 1 and half year. It was not easy to get up early in the morning with sleepless nights but tried and Successful.

Everything is possible with little bit of push.

10. Happy to spend time with my elder one. She cried many times due to non availability of mummy with her.😑 And after lots of struggle I was finally able to succeed. Not 100 percent but I figured out to have date with my elder daughter. After all she had been my best friend over this 8 years. 🙂

Had errands, movie date, cook date with her. Looking forward with many fun things.

It is important to have one on one time with your each child.

11. Last but not the list - My Blog.

Able to get back on my blog. Success knock on the door with hardwork. My dream come true to become a successful mom blogger. This was the first step of my success and many more to come. 

Dedication and hard work pay back to you.

With love of my hubby and daughters we struggled a lot and have a happy, yes we can say "HAPPY " 2022. 

Because we learned : 

💜 To accept the people the way they are. 

💜 It is okay. 

💜 Time is temporary and it will fade away.

💜 We nurture our babies without any guilt.

💜 To enjoy each phase of life though it is tough or smooth.

We had babies after so many trial and error and in a natural way. And that is the main reason of our "HAPPINESS"

Finally I have my big Family.😎

Dec 11 is the birthday of my twins ❤ We have crossed the difficult journey -"TWINMOTHERHOOD" Yeaaaa! We made it. 🙌🏻🤘Saee and Mr. Hubby😘

How was your 2022? Share your special memory in comment section.

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