Happiness is selfmade

It was 1st January 2020 when one of my subscribers asked me to write on “HAPPINESS” and I did not write at that time. Because it was a really challenging one. I did not want to spread any negativity from my post. I tried but it seems to be more negative. Then I looked back to my life and observe, what is really Happiness to me?

Thank you, dear subscriber.

As it leads to me in deeper thoughts.  Since my childhood happiness is not equal to me. Then I thought, “NO” there are more countable days when I was happy. Like I was happy when I had my degree, my first job, my marriage, my house, my vehicle, my kid, etc. I think these are the milestone in everyone’s life and everybody tends to achieve it. Yep, it is a different thing that we want something else and we get something. 😊 This is called DESTINY. You will get what you DESERVE!

But,

As human beings we tend to think about such things which we are not able to achieve. Might be for satisfaction or passion. It is perfectly natural. 😀

All I want to say we do more struggle on what we don’t have rather concentrate on what we have. When we are able to draw a line in between this, we will be the happiest person in this world.

I am not professional but yes like to pen down my thoughts on this through “SPEAKEASYCHALLENGE”. Please don’t forget to put your valuable thoughts in the comment section below.

I am follower of Buddhism and it really works on our life. We read a message or put this quote on our social media wall. Is this only limited to that? The answer is “NO” Because everyone is suffering and search for happiness.

What do you mean by our feelings?

Feelings are attached to the current situation. The situation may not sustain for a longer period of time but our feeling remains throughout life. Every situation is temporary. We generate our thoughts with that situation and stick with it forever. Try to live in the present, yes it is quite a tough but not impossible. When the situation gets over after some period of time then why not our thoughts? Live your life more mindfully. It will bring more satisfaction and happiness in your life. Don’t try to scratch any feeling forcefully.

For Example: As a mother, we are always lined up our work. Sometimes our child shows us a tantrum in unexpected ways. That will ruin our whole day as it will be the root cause of the delay in every work. And our anger develops. Our kids will forget within a span of time but we do not. We used to push our anger on ourselves, on the whole day and sometime this will be carried to the next day too.

We should learn from our child that everything is temporary. We should forget and forgive.

“Always do those things which makes you happy”

As a human being we are wearing many hats as a daughter, son, mother, father, daughter in law, sister in law, a list will never end. We always in dilemma what society will say? Right? Who cares, this is your life and you have a full right to be happy. Never hurt anyone for your happiness but yes, always do such things which make you happy. Happiness is lying in doing small things and not the big achievements. Don’t forget to enjoy a tiny moment when you will look back you get to know how big that was.

“Accept the things the way that occurs”

Indeed. It is really not the easy one. It is not possible to always accept things. But instead of digging on – why, how, where, acceptance makes it easy. The more you dig yourself the more you will suffer.

If your near and dear one not behaving the way you want and in spite of your every trial then leave it and accept their behavior. If anyone angry with you, accept that anger. His anger also temporary due to some incident and it is ok, sometimes people get angry, sometimes people get sad, sometimes people get jealous and sometimes people get happy too. Accept the way they are instead of indulging in why. It does not mean that you should withdraw from the situation. This is the way where you can stop overthinking. Acceptance helps in maintaining your inner peace. Other behavior should not empower your mind. Our mental peace should not disturb by the behavior of outside people.

Realistically it is not possible that we live in a present. Our life is a reflection of our past. We tend to interlink our everyday situation with yesterday. This interlinking brings more problems to the present life. I know we are just a complicated human being and not saint, but yes we should try on these things which are actually normal and we always make it complicated. If you adopt “Let it go” you will be more able to live your life at that moment.

Finally,

What do you think, what is happiness?

According to me, Happiness is our thought only. If we thought we are happy we will be happy and if we thought we are sad we will be sad.

So,  

@choose your thought carefully.

@Do not stick any temporary feeling.

@Learn to live in the present, and moreover learn to live each moment happily.

@Try to forgive so that you can have peace.

@ Try to detach with the person, situation, and relationship. The more you detach the more you will find peace.

I would like to sum up here only with wishing you a lotttttssss of HAPPINESS.  Especially moms, don’t forget, if we are happy our whole family is happy.

 

Till then,

 

Keep smiling 😊

 

This post is written for Speakeasy Blogging Challenge 2020 by Ruchie & Dipika.


PS: All buddha quotes images from pintrest




Comments

  1. Nitin yashwant kadam6 July 2020 at 21:03

    very nice explained.... really happiness is selfmade...👏🏻

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  2. Informative post! I learned a lot about staying happy, living in the present and building a constant happy state of mind. #SpeakEasyWithRuchNDips

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  3. Awesome Blog for everyone but specially for mom. The examples you are given is very true.and the way u said happiness belongs to ur thought only.The entire world chang by that sentance only.
    Thanks for shearing meaning thoughts whichmake life easy.

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  4. Well I am not thoroughly agree with you. Cause if you always do what we love to do then most of us wouldnt fit in the society we have. But we can surely choose more often things that make us happy.

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  5. Hi, judy, agree. But it depend on person to peeson. I saw most of the mom are not doing simple things because of the society.
    Thank you for your valuable comment.

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  6. Detachment works well when we are not able to solve problem. And yes everything is temporary, so enjoy the present.

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  7. Liked the way you expressed your views. Nice article.

    aditikapur.com

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  8. Acceptance is the very first step towards happiness. I agree a d I have realised this fact. Your post is very deep and thought provoking. Absolutely loved it.

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  9. Yes, out mind wanders into materialistic things and we think that makes us happy. we plan for our future and we feel we are sorted but until and unless we learn to live happy in this very moments nothing can give us the happiness that we are looking for.

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  10. We have to learn live in the present, not repeat past mistakes and be hopeful of a bright future. Happiness is certainly self made.

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  11. Wow di you have elaborated this so beautifully❤ and you actually taught all what is happiness and how to be happy in life. Specially it's a good example for our lovely moms 😘 So stay happy always and enjoy each moment of it 😍

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  12. You have made really important points. Overthinking is very painful and can make your life upside down.

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  13. Amritha Srinath8 July 2020 at 09:43

    I agree that we should try to do what we love, because that's what gives us a content feeling and make us happy.

    Also, memories are something to which we hold on to and that makes us happy and smiling too!

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  14. Very true, once we learn to draw line between things under our control and beyond our control, we will be happy. And, loved the point to learn from our kids to forget and forgive easily. Thinking over time does cause unhappiness!

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  15. Loved your take buddy Buddhism indeed teaches us a lot of worthy principles and yes we so need to lean from a kid that everything is temperorary So be happy

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  16. Loved your take on theme and i felt that you are talking to me. I agree that we need to acknowledge our emotions and feeling positively and try to live in the moment. overthinking about past events brings a state of sadness, so it is best to avoid that kind of thoughts and stick to small things of happiness that matter most in life.

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  17. No one else but we are the only one who can make ourselves happy. Nice post.

    -ujjwal mishra mywordsmywisdom

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  18. Lovely article. I feel the same. Happiness is also small things not just the big archivements. Buddha quotes are 😍 well written!

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  19. Lovely article. I feel the same. Happiness is also small things not just the big archivements. Buddha quotes are 😍 well written!

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  20. I somewhat agree with you, if we really want to be happy we should be able to focus on present, we should be grateful for what we have now. Nice post!

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  21. I couldn't agree more, happiness is in our hands and it is us who can decide what makes us genuinely happy.

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  22. Happiness is subjective and it comes from within. All the pointers mentioned are gems and truth of life, if you know the art of practising them in your life, you are the happiest person. Well-written post.

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  23. We all evolve with time. Parenting change us multi-dimensionally. The essence of happiness stays the same but of course, parenting do tires us enough to look inside us or work on our own happiness. But I believe once the new overwhelming emotions of new parents settle we can focus on happiness. Like you mentioned, let it go and live in the moment.

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  24. Being happy no matter what is also a way to be happy. So just be happy coz you deserve it.

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  25. Manisha - Your points, in the end, absolutely bang on and it takes time to truly incorporate those, I have been trying failed many times but I am sure I will succeed.

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  26. Well said happiness is actually the thought of our mind its all about what we decide to be like happy or sad. Commendable way to throw light on the theme of happiness by recalling the says of Buddha.

    Archana Srivastava

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  27. Life is about moving on.Happines is within ourself we just need to dwell it little harder.Be happy and let's spread happiness.

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  28. Most of the time, we try to change what we have which directly leads to unhappiness. We should learn to accept things as they are to be happier

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  29. Well said once we decide to count our blessings rather than Living into sadness what we don’t have, happiness starts to reside within us. Thanks dor sharing a manyra of a happy life i.e. “Let it go and Live the moment”.

    Archana Srivastava
    archusblog

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  30. You are so correct. Happiness can't be expressed in words but emotions. Every individual experience in some form but realize later

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  31. Learned this the hard way that if being a mother I am happy my family will also be happy. And yes acceptance is something we learn with time.

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  32. Thank You all lovely people for putting your valuable thoughts. I am extremely overwhelmed. Really grateful.

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  33. It's important to have acceptance and spread the happiness, such beautiful and valuable thoughts!!

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  34. It's really thoughtful article u have written and it's very true feelings of urs comes in words,it's correct tha, do only those things which makes u more happy and live in present.again useful info especially for mom.

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  35. Wonderful post and very thought provoking. Yes happiness lies in many things and one of the main thing is self. Yes I believe happiness lies within oneself n making others happy too.

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