Friday, 26 January 2024

LOVE IS NOT FOR ME





Angha and Ravi look like they were made for each other.  They had been married for two years and had a beautiful life. Angha was a corporate employee while Ravi was a government official. Both love each other. Both had different work schedules but still they managed to take out the time for each other. They had date nights twice in a month whether it was a coffee date or dinner date, they followed the ritual every time. They were a happy couple. 


But from the last 2 months Angha saw the difference in Ravi behaviour. He seems to be busy all weekend too. He barely had time for Angha. And whenever Angha asked him he said in a nasty voice that he is busy. 


Angha accidentally saw Ravi's message which was" Good Morning Shona." at 5:30 am. 

But she ignored it. 

Meanwhile Ravi and Her common friends were advised Angha to pay attention to Ravi. He might have a girlfriend. 

But again she ignored it.

Just because she loves Ravi from the bottom of heart and never wanted to lose him.


One day she asked for an outing and he got so annoyed. She asked, how is it possible that you don't have time for me, for us ?

His reply was ," I will resign from the job and will sit at home for you. Okay. Then you will be happy. " He created the big scene and he was going to slap her too. 


Angha realised it was not the same Ravi who loved her. One day she saw Ravi with his girlfriend.  she directly went there and slapped him.


Ravi as usual was a weird man, who created big scenes in the cafe. Even he humiliated Angha in front of his girlfriend.


Angha didn't stand there and she left that place. It was unbearable to see the disrespect from her Husband. She realised Ravi hates her. She often thought Ravi is a fake person. His love, his caring everything is fake. She can't handle it for a long period of time and she decided to take Divorce. Since they had no kids so it was easy for Angha to take a divorce. 


And they get divorced.


Angha had only one question,  Why?

When she loved him why didn't she get loyalty and love in return?


She worked more hard and got herself buried in work so that feelings of Ravi shouldn't bother her. Angha gets more busy day by day. She didn't even take vacation from last year. She was a busy bee.


One evening she met Kabir her college friend. Angha hugged him because she was so happy to see him after a long time. Happy because she was in a stressful period for the last 12 months. Angha and Kabir Started to meet each other frequently. They had endless conversations. They had a long drive and had lots of coffee dates. Angha was so happy with him that she thanked God for everything worse happened with her. Finally her happy days were on the way.


Kabir proposed Angha and Angha accepted his proposal. They were love birds. Angha looks so charming and more beautiful. Angha loves the way Kabir loves her, feels her and understands every feeling of Angha just by looking into her eyes. Kabir knows exactly what Angha wants,  A front hug or a back hug? Forehead kiss or French kiss ? Coffee or tea ? Street food or candle light dinner? Sex or romance? 


Yes, they had a sex. First time Angha felt beauty of the sex.  She felt she got her soulmate and never had this feeling with her Ex Husband. 

How can she had ? 

They barely had sex. That also when Angha insisted on Ravi. He barely made her happy  And he always claimed that no one would love Angha the way he loves. 

Bull shit..... And that's why he cheated on her. 


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Angha was in her happy place. But destiny had something for her. One day Kabir told Angha that he is a married man. That gave another shock to her. She crumbled and didn't handle this heartbreak. She fought with Kabir why he hid it from the beginning whereas she told him everything about her life. She cried a lot and with a broken heart closed the door for Love forever .


She slowly goes into depression.

Again the same question

Why?

Whenever I love a person from the bottom of my heart why I am getting hurt?

Why?


And finally she realised, Love is not meant for me. 


It has been two months since she had therapy and now she is recovering. She started painting. Art therapy helps her to come out of that depression. She painted many boards. She always gets fully immersed in the painting that she didn't realise when the day got over. She arranged her painting exhibition and that was always a hit. She was the happiest person when her painting gets sold. All this is because she started to love herself. She recognised self love value. She started to give respect to herself. 

Now Angha has become a famous painter.


This post is a part of Remembering Love Blog Hop hosted by Manali Desai and Sukaina Majeed


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Thursday, 18 January 2024

SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT EVERY MOM NEEDS


SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT EVERY MOM NEEDS 

Support that every mom needs



We moms are always in a roller coaster. Whether it is every day school, Every day tiffin for Mr. Hubby, bath and feed to your little one, feeding the elder one in a family and...list will go on and on ......


Roller coaster ride. 


We all need our support system. Every mom should have at least one support system to PAUSE, REFRESH and to RESTART.


But the question is how ?

A support system is actually a person with whom you can relax, cry, laugh, travel, have fun and recharge yourself. 


We have to find one person who brings joy to our face. 🥰


Why is this Support System required?

In simple terms to maintain our mental health. 


Yes.


It is very important to take care of our mental health as we are catering to many services of mom, wife, daughter in law, chef, laundry woman, decorator, party organisers, nutritionist and many more.


The more responsibility the more mental load. 


And so we need our support system.


To,


1) Reduce stress :

Our support system helps in reducing anxiety and stress. Just spending time with your loved one increases your happy hormones and so is the mood.


2) Build Self Esteem:

While juggling with an all-to-do list our self esteem goes down. Sometimes we didn't recognise ourselves and so we are on the verge of losing ourselves.

Our support system, the one with whom we can talk, share our stress and take help as much as possible to rebuild our self esteem.


3) Emotional Support

We go through many emotional turmoil and all we need is one friend who understands our emotions and feelings. To vent it out we need that support. This supports not only lift you up in your difficult time but also being your guide and showing us the correct way.


4) Motivator 

Our support system is the one where we can find our motivation. The one person who motivates us thoroughly without any selfishness. Our support will aways tried hard to reach us at our destination. No matter how difficult the journey this motivator always Patt you and makes you ready for the ride.With this support we can reach out to our potential.


5. Improve health

With the right kind of support system our physical as well as emotional health also start healing and so improve our well-being.

We feel we are healthy and Happy.


I personally found the support system always boosted.  I have support system - Mr.Hubby, my friend and my daughter. With these people I overcome my depression. Found my way of living life and let out my stress in proper way. 

You are not alone. We all moms once goes through the depression, anxiety and our harmonal started to imbalance and that turned badly on our health. 

 

So find your support system which is always around you. Feel free to share your load with them and take care of yourself.


Question of the day.

We have different support system at different phase of life. Which one is the best support system you have in your life?



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This blog post is a part of the blog challenge ‘BlogaberryDazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Mads’ Cookhouse.


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Friday, 12 January 2024

REFLECTION 2023 AND GOALS FOR 2024

REFLECTION 2023 and Goals for 2024




The last two three years I have been doing reflection for the previous year and it does really help me to evolve as a person, mother, wife for my family. So let's reflect on how our 2023 was.


Family Gatherings 

2023 started with small family getaways which was refreshing for us. Because due to pregnancy and postpartum our two years were so hectic that we didn't have a chance to socialize. The year started with family gatherings and off course lots of fun.



Emotional changes

2023 was also an emotional turmoil for me. My father' s demise. He struggled a lot. Still he managed to make video calls and talked with me. He had all his favourite meals. He played with my twins too for a very short period of time but he did it. 😞 He enjoyed all the cricket match with his phone calls.

I admire his capabilities.




We struggled to keep him alive and he was struggling to end his life. It was more painful to see him. And finally in May he left us. 


I am still not recovering. But he is not with us.😞


With his demise I saw lots of emotions up and down with  every relationship. Learning new things, recognising the persons and accepting them the way they are without any judgements.


Life at a New Place : 

This year was a major change of place for us as a family. We had been at this place for almost 10 years. Life was all set here, but destiny has something new for us. 


WE MOVE 

To,

New places, to new surroundings, left our comfort zone behind and again struggled to fit in a new place. 

But to my surprise, the new place was more relaxed. Especially for Mr.Hubby,  for my daughter. And so for me too.


Changes are always good. Right?


My daughters were very happy. The eldest one loved her school. She took one week to adjust with the new school with amazing and cooperative friends. We saw how happy she was !

And all I want is happiness for her. So her birthday was special. The way she always asked me. It was the first time she had her choice of friends all from her age group and they all made blast !

Grateful to the universe for her happiness! 💗


Meals 

I tried very few new recipes especially for toddlers. And I love the way they gobbled it. Able to create healthy meal options for my toddlers and feed them variation. 



With toddlers I also succeed in meal planning and almost have fresh homemade foods.


Home Pooja and Toddlers birthday:




Though we shifted in August but we were able to do our new gruha puja in December. And my twin toddlers second birthday at home within us. 




We went through the tough period of shifting and adjusting to a new place and so new life. I and Mr. Hubby learnt to enjoy things the way they came up rather than stressing in negative things. 


Grateful to the universe for every blessing.


New Goal for the Year 2024 


Baking : 

This year I want to learn new food specially baking items. Aiming to have more homemade bake foods and less ordered food.


Gatherings:👭👬

Mr. Hubby and I decided to have more gathering at home. We love when people and friends visit us. Already there is a huge queue waiting and so we are , OUR HOME is now ready to welcome the guest. 


Date with friends : 👩‍❤️‍👩

It's been years since I met my girlfriends. So this year I will try to arrange the meet ups as much as possible. And have my personal friend's life too. I will be more proactive. Making more phone calls and meeting in person.


Reading: 📖📖

I have started reading already. This year I have to finish reading books on my book shelf. I deliberately avoid going to book fairs so that I can concentrate on what I have and finish that first. 


Moreover I read on Kindle too. I love that digital reading also. More reading with particular numbers.🤞

And I want to search library near my area too. Hope to find it. 


Exercise: 🧘🏃

Yes! I did my yoga for last year very well. So with a little bit of confidence this year I want to do Yoga and some running. 

Crossing 40 and so Health is my priority. The goal is to workout at least 4 times a week for 20 to 30 minutes. 


More playtime and Read Aloud with twins : 


My twins turn 2. And it is more challenging to teach them, to create activities for them, to keep them screen free, to connect with them and most importantly enjoy with them. 

Planning lots of simple activities and speech activities for them. Read more books with them and this year I will be creating some new books for them. 


Writing📝

I love writing but sometimes I lost my track and was demotivated. I want to write more on my blog. Last year I entered the fiction writing world and so this year I wanted to learn as much as possible about fiction writing. One of the goals to participate in most blog hops and blog challenges.

Check out my poems too here and here 


Travel : 🧳✈️

I think we are now able to travel with our tiny toddlers. Planning to travel more a small vacation and one long tour. 


Dating with Spouse/daughter:

Last year we did Saturday Movie Date which works wonderful for us. That is the only way we can spend time with each other. 😐 Planning to have more date nights and more family walks. 

We will plan more dates with my elder daughter so that we can spend special time with her. 


Apart from this my major goals are : 

Working towards my dreams. 

More self-care and self pampering.

Buying more new clothes. Trying new clothes styling.

Taking care of my mental health.

Slow down and prioritize things.

Maintain a simple living without scrolling

Complete my K drama watchlist 😛 (Entertainment is major things)

Having mindfulness in living life.

Love to my family more. 

Find joy in each day and love more life. 


Have you reflect on the year 2023 ? Have you set any goals?









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