अरे यार 10 वर्षाची झाली मी !

अरे यार 10 वर्षाची झाली मी …

अंग झालीस पण 10 वर्षाची बापरे!  तुला बघता कधी मोठी झालीस समजलेच नाही ग ! मोठी झालीस हे बोलण्यामागे खूप जबाबदारी आणि एक वेगळीच गम्मत आहे बरं का ...!

जेव्हा मला तुझ्या मम्मी ने सांगितले कि सई ला पेरिएडस (पाळी ) आलीय तेव्हा काय सांगू तुला जणू ह्या जगातला सगळ्यात जास्त खुश मी असेन कारण तुझ्या जन्मापासून फक्त मी आणि तुझी मम्मीच होते ना सोबत .. त्यामुळे एवढीशी तू ..आणि आज तू एवढी मोठी झालीस ..हा प्रवास आठवूनच डोळ्यात पाणी आले अर्थात आनंदाचे ..! तुला माहितीच आहे कि त्या दिवशी घरी येऊन मी काय केले .. ते फक्त माझ्या लाडक्या गुड्डू साठी ...!

पण तू ते  खूप लवकर आत्मसात केलेस ..रडली नाहीस उलट मी तुला मिठी मारून रडत होतो तेव्हा तू मला शांत केलेस .शेवटी पप्पा  आहे ना ग तुझा मी अश्या प्रसंगी रडायला येणारच ना ...!

दुसरे सांगायचं म्हणजे तू नशीबवान म्हणजे तुला जुळ्या बहिणी मिळाल्या .. आता तुमची मोठी गट्टी होणार ना..! पण एक लक्षात ठेव गुड्डू तू तुझ्या बहिणीची दुसरी मम्मी आहेस कारण तुला जेवढे छान शिकवता येईल तेवढे शिकव , मस्त बॉण्डिंग ठेवा तिघी .. मज्जा करा .. बाकी पप्पा मम्मी आहेतच ना सोबत .

आता तू मुंबई मध्ये परत आली आहेस , तुला नवीन मित्र मैत्रिणी भेटणार तुझे खरे नवीन आयुष्य सुरु होणार . शाळेत नवीन अभ्यास , नवीन शिक्षक सगळे कसे नवनवीन .. मज्जा आहे बुवा तुझी .. 

पण आता तुझी खरी परीक्षा आहे कारण सगळे लाइफ changing आहे .. खूप अभ्यास कर , छान माणूस म्हणून तयार हो आणि ते तू होशीलाच ...!

गुड्डू तुला तुझ्या 10 व्या वाढदिवसाच्या खूप शुभेच्छा .. खूप मोठी हो , खूप यश मिळो तुला .. आणि शेवटी अरे यार .. बोलायला विसरू नकोस ....

तुझा पप्पा ....

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9 Ways To Have Easy and Calm Shifting With Toddlers

 

I truly believe home is where the heart is. We can relax and rejuvenate ourselves in a home. So I am trying to keep high vibration. 

Home shifting is always difficult no matter if your family members are big, old or young. It is hectic and irritating. We have to pack our whole house and then unpack the same. Some people are very quick while some tend to reduce materialistic thing as much as possible and some are like me , 😄 taking EASY one step at a time, then no matter how many days it will take. 

A house you can get easily, shifting can be done but making that house in a home is the art of every homemaker. Isn't it ?

As soon as we announce that we are shifting to a new city, everyone is curious and constantly asking how will you manage with your twin toddler? And so Mr. Hubby was getting tense too. I patted on his shoulder and said, ho jayega. 

Though we are using packers service still we have to do lots of TO DO.  Because my funda is to go slowly and choose the easy way to achieve the goal. 

The most important TO DO: 👇

Pay your electricity bill. Take pics of your light reading. It will save you from hassle.

Pay your milk bill, paper bill and internet bill. 

Make payment of your maids if you have on time. 

The most important clean your house after packing everything.

Make sure to clean bathroom and washroom and washbasin. Do not keep it dirty.

What was that easy way to have calm shifting? So that you can have peaceful morning on next day of shifting 😉

1. Always pack at least 10 days clothes including your undergarments in your bag pack. Or else pack your family's 8 days minimum clothes in one bag. Make sure packers should not pack this bag in any box. 

This way you have clean clothes for at least a week. Until you unpack your boxes.

2. Pack separately your bedsheet, blankets and towels in another backpack. Clean towels and bedsheets are mandatory for me. Because we wants to sleep on clean beds. It should be in cartoon which is easier to found. Label it as bedsheets and quilts.

3. Keep basic toiletries in handbags like toothpaste, toothbrush, facewash, body wash, small pouches of surf Excel, moisturizer and small deodorant. 

4. The most important things are gas lighter, rolling pin, tawa, chimta, knives, and a bunch of spoons, 2,3 glass and cups. Pack it separately.

5. The rest of the utensils should be packed in a box with a label. So that you can have  a basic dinner set will save your time. Don't forget to pack masala dabbas and dal in this same box. 

6. Now comes electronic items. All your remotes, like TV remote, speaker remote, AC remote should pack in one place. Don t forget to pack chargers of all cell phones, tabs and laptops in one place. It should be properly labelled. 

7. If you have a baby or toddler, pack clothes, water bottles or sippy cups, diapers and medicine at one place. It should be with you.

8. Don't forget to pack your important documents, jewellery if you have anything at home and cash in your bag pack. 

Keep your letters handy for smooth entry in your new location.

9. Ask help :

Yes, this is most important. Ask your friends and family to arrange meals for at least two days. specially if you have a small baby, kids or old age parents. Don't get into formalities. Ask upfront your real friends will be happy to help you.

This is my 4th shifting and so I am very well experienced about what to pack and how to pack.😄  Every time I learnt new things and it is really making a good impact on my mind. To be calm and taking it EASY.

Unpacking will be done as per my schedule and whenever I have time at least 2,3 hours so that I can arrange one spot like wardrobes or kitchen or living room. Yes, I am not in  a hurry to unpack Everything and get arranged in a two days. Then you will fall sick and I don't want that. Better way I keep all boxes at one place and unpack easily and slowly. 

What are your tips you want to share about shifting?

This post was created for the Blogaberry Creative (Monthly) Challenge.

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla.

  ©Neeta Kadam. This article and image are the property of Memory Flies. Any unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author is strictly prohibited.

 

Life Lately July

 Hi, there,

I hope you all are fine. We all are still juggling. 

It is the last week of July 2023 and we are in our baby steps. On 1st July we enter in this new house and mentally prepared for new home and new challenge on a positive note.😃 There is no such thing --- no, but gradually I am learning to take every step slowly with positive mindset. It doesn't mean you have to be happy. I am trying to minimise my irritation and negativity. It is really difficult where you have to unpack your whole house, the elder ones new school, study, exam, twin toddlers and Mr. Hubby. Hussshhh.... !

We decided to go as slowly as possible. It is one of the phases which will fade away not very soon but yes, it will. I love to arrange a home but with twin toddlers it is quite tough. Then I thought these were the precious memories of my twins. They will be growing up here ! That's why I am updating my life Lately on my blog. MemoryFlies 😊

We shifted to a new house, a new city, new surroundings and new people. This is our 4th shift and I think it will be the last and best. Yep, with the best mindset life will be best. What do you think?

The things we learn about people and neighbours. No matter wherever you go, wherever you stay in a high standard locality or middle class or lower middle class, you will get the same ( worse ) kind of people. Only 30% can be kind and helpful.

So the lesson learnt is not to have any expectations with anyone. No need to be kind to unkind people. Just to have causal meetings and try to avoid as much as you can except social gatherings.

Life Lately is having twin toddlers who are in the climbing stage and constantly putting fingers in electric holes. Have to arrange furniture accordingly so that they will be safe. 

Currently my TV wall unit looks like this. Not yet properly arranged but will get soon.

The kitchen is a disaster right now. Arranged basic utility so that I am able to cook three meals.

This is my pantry, I always wanted to have a pantry in my kitchen and so finally got it. I hope I will organise as soon as possible. 

Basically this is a non modular kitchen which is small but I love it because it is more functional and keeps me in my minimalistic nature. 

Yes! I am Grateful:

Grateful to have a roof, food and water.

Grateful to have a pollution free atmosphere.

Grateful to have peaceful surroundings.

Grateful to have accessibility to each tiny thing. 

Currently reading :

To my toddlers only, 😊

These are favourite ones.

Helping my elder one because this time her board has changed and so it is new for her and for me too.

Currently Watching

I love to binge on Netflix but unable to watch as I did not get any ME time. Still I am watching YouTube videos to get more inspiration to carry on homemaking. 

My favourites are : 

Old World Home

I love to watch English one because they do not have any drama on their channels. 

I watched her for the last 8 years and still she is my favourite. Inspired me a lot to be healthy and happy. Which one is your favourite? Comment below.

Currently Favourite Food: 

Nothing right now. But yes I am into feeding my family healthy food as much as possible. So currently my favourite foods are Ragi, Carrot and beet.

I am adding these to every food item. And trying to make new dishes.

Currently mood : 

Tired, and want to go out on a walk for at least 30 minutes. 

But unable.... 

Instead trying to move my body on zumba move😃 once in a week at least for 15 min. 😂

Currently I love to talk with my daughter. We got the time to chat at night only when we are on our bed and constantly talking with each other. She love this time and me too. Sometimes I have to tell her go to sleep because she is not a morning person. And I also allow her to have a complete sleep.

My life Lately is quiet challenging. Because there are still boxes to unpack, the wardrobes are waiting to be wiped down, unpacking of clothes, still the drillings are pending, still kitchen need to streamlined.... And blaa....blaaa....blaaa...

One of most precious thing is my three daughters are happy and able to cope up with this new shift. New change in everyday routine, seasonal change and off course the sleeping room change.

Questions of the day

How do you tackle the shifting? Does it drives you madly or you taking it slowly?

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’
hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla.  

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Summer dates with Dad

Hello June 2023,

Daddy love her daughter so much and always excited to take her out. I called it Date with Dad and both love it too 😊The bonding between dad and daughter is always special and I want to save this memory on my blog as these are the special moments for us as a parents. 

We are in half of the year 2023. Is it going so fast for me or  you guys feel the same speed?  school will start and so our mom duties (dauda dauda bhaga bhaga sa) 😭😡😊

How was your summer holiday?Our was filled with fun and a little bit of stress. But I will share some happiness. 

A summer date with dad - As the title of my blog post. Why I called  a date because daddy is her favourite than a mom and she loves to travel with him. Dad get very less time but we are happy to have as much as dad can. This summer holiday we want to make it special for her because the last two year was stressful for us. Arrival of twins siblings made her happy but more responsible too (Mommy guilt is here) but I guess this is the time where she is learning what is family love.  

Daddy loves to go with the family. I am afraid to travel with a twin baby due to numerous reasons. On the last day of her school her dad asked her to make a bucket list of the places where she wants to go. It should be a one day outing only. And so she made it. Dad has only weekends and so it was packed with daddy -daughter date.😃😊 

I am so happy to see her happy. She convinced me to be with her but I denied. Cruel mum 😭 . I wanted to go out with her. But I don't want to mess her day out with dad. At least she can fully enjoy. 

So what was her bucket list? 

Sharing some major glimpses of summer date with dad. We stayed in Mumbai and she is 9 years old now. We didn't take her out because she was so small to explore Mumbai train travel. She had been to many places like Andman, Kashmir and Kerla too. When we decided to take her to the Mumbai darshan lock down started. 😑 Now we are ready (we thought ) she is ready to travel.

Summer holiday starts from the second week of April. She had to rest, sleep, screen and play for hours with friends in the first two weeks. Then our bucket list was ready and most importantly dad also got free for her daughter.

The first weekend was Gate way of India. 

Dad prepared her like, how to reach over there? 

How to take a ticket from the railway station? 

How many stations have to cross ? 

And mentally prepared her for the RUSH of the local train.

She read it in her GK book and then watched it on YouTube too. When she actually travelled with her dad, she realised how far it is and how crowded it. She loved it though it was crowded and dirty. (True!)  Not able to had a fairy round due to the crowd but she enjoyed her first date with her dad. Had ice cream only as she was too tired to eat anything. Reached home and slept.

Another weekend of the summer holiday was Nehru planetarium. Both were very excited. The first time she traveled with the A.C. local train and got frozen. 

She insisted on having a denim jacket but I was denied due to the heat. Poor my daughter,😑 but she managed. I think these are things where our children should learn how to cope up with unfavorable situations on their own, right? What do you think?

Outside look of the place

On planet

I still have not checked this place. But both of them enjoyed it.

Some To Dos if you haven't checked out: 

# You have to pre Book tickets.

# Shows are in 3 languages, Marathi, English and Hindi. You can choose as per your comfort.

# There is cafeteria so you can have snacks.  

# There are many things which we learnt about our planet in a very short time. 

Next weekend date : Pool Party. 

She had a school picnic where she was unable to enjoy because  it was in winter, and there was no pick and drop facility available. Yes, she missed many things due to our twins schedule (feel sorry for her) but we promised her to have lots of celebrations during her summer holidays. And here we are keeping our promise! 

The pool party was at the farmhouse. I don't like crowded pools and I prefer to have two families only. We had the clean and non messy pool party. Music was in moderation and with twins we  enjoyed.  

Food was awesome like home cooked. It was baby friendly too. The lawn was clean, the trees shades and whole farm was beautiful.  This date was with family and we enjoyed it fully.

And rest of summer holiday at nannis house with her cousins.  Meanwhile we enjoyed movie dates at home with bucket of homemade.popcorn and mangoes.

This post was created for the Blogaberry Creative (Monthly) Challenge.

How was your Summer holiday? 

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Tips For Road Trip With a Small Kids

 

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Summer vacation are going to end very soon. But somehow our family travel still going on. Some had exotic vacation like Maldives 😉 and some had upto moms places. We moms are eagerly waiting for vacation to meet our mom and dad! People travel by road, rail, air and sea. 

I am going to talk about Road Travel. People who travel by car with toddler or even with the small kids. Most of moms are still messy when it comes to travel. I saw people used to fill train or car  with their litters. Have you experienced this ?

I love to travel by train. But travelling by car with our little one is little bit hectic. Yes, we plan adventurous road family trip with kids but it should be fun and filled with joy. Is that possible?

Yes! Definitely.

Sharing some tips which I mostly follow on road trip. If you have toddlers or small kids then not to worry. 

Let's start. 

Even if your journey is small or long kids get tired easily. To keep them engaged is a daunting task for every parents. Continues pee break irritate some parents and we ended up in giving screen in their hands. 

Do you feel it in same way? 

 Here are some practical tips which I followed to have smooth road trips. 

👕Wear comfortable clothes 

Child's comfort is most important in any trips. Always choose the clothes in which your child is comfotable. A simple t-shirt and pant is go to. Because they are traveling so give this choice to them but at the same time put only that clothes in front of them which you think comfortable for them.,😉 (Cheating)

Keep extra blanket, caps, pillow for comfort. 

Fill your car with extra blankets, pillow and warm caps. If you are traveling in winter or at night. It will give them a nice sleep in the car. 

Keep napkins and wet tissue papers. :

Specially when you are travelling with kids such wet napkins are handy. Extra Napkins, handkerchief should be in your bag pack. Keep one pair of clothes in your bag pack. You never know potty and pee and sometime vomiting 😐are part of travelling. 

If you are traveling with babies then you should keep one trash bag to dispose the diapers. If you are traveling with small kids then you have to keep extra pair of clothes including undergarments. 

👟Wear shoes or sneekers to your kids. 

Do not ask your kids to wear fancy shoes . It is always advisable to have shoes with socks. Ask them to remove the shoe inside the car.

🍏Carry homemade foods 

Carry lots of fruits like grapes, orange, strawberry which are easy to peel and finished quickly. Fruits always keep them hydrate and filled. 

Try to take homemade paratha, chikki, til or rajgira laddo which are easy to eat. Instead of taking packaged food which might cause stomach upset. Allow to have one or two chips or tangy food instead of chocolates but in a limited quantity.

🥤Carry water

 Yes this is the most important tips. Instead of purchasing water from outside it is more beneficial to carry your own water bottles. Pack a whole bag of this bottle and use thought the trip.

🐶Carry Toys 

Have kids favourite one soft toy always. Do not get irritated when your kid want to take toys with them. They love to be with their toy and we should respect their feeling. Allow one or two toys only. This will make them happy and ultimately you are happy too.

🚽Take Toilet Breaks:

Take this small breaks and allow your kids to use public washroom for freshen up. Always take such bathroom break near the park or hotels which have the park. Let them enjoy so that they can stretch out the legs.

Sing a song and have funny Q and A

😛Keep talking with them so that they will enjoy. If kids ask, have we reach?tell them we will reach on time. You are not allowed to ask the same question again and again. You can ask any other question. Then see the curiosity and start the conversation. This will increase imagination and curiosity of your child.

Sing a song together. Play antakshari they will enjoy and you too.

Play games : 

Like count trees, name the cloud shape, read board on highway (our favourite one), name cars and vehicles, observe the mirror.  Try to give out answer of every curious questions.without using Google.😉

Technology

Try to use less as much as possible in terms of giving screen to your kids. Instead of that you can listen audio books for kids. It is the big hit for me. We love to listen story on audio books at my home too. 

No Activity:

A big NO for this. I will not encourage to do any activity in moving vehicle specially drawing, colouring or reading. That is not at all good for eyes. So avoid that. Let them be free. Do not dump any activity book with your travelling luggage. 

First aid kit

Always have a small first aid kit with you. It should have all basics things. Keep medicine too in case required.

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These are my points according to my experience which I found most useful. Not being an Instagram mommies to fill every place with activities. I believe to give space for children to choose the way they want to be. Kids should learn themselves how to cope up with the surrounding. Every time our surroundings changed and we have to change with that. If we keep them pampered how will they going to learn to live there life? Agree?

Meanwhile if you love to travel then don't forget to check out my travel post. 

Link in bio : 

Pawna Lake Camping

Beauty of Kashmir  

Tour of ND studio 

Visit at Karla lane 

Which things you follow while traveling with your kids? 

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Things I am Loving #Gratitude List 3 April Edition

I am pretty late in publishing my gratitude list. It's been the end of May and I am publishing my April Gratitude List. 

Earlier I used to think like this and was never able to publish even well written blog posts. I write what I feel and think other moms will get inspired. In the reels world I still love to write. And I really love to look at my whole previous month to check on how I progress in terms of self development. Did I learnt something ? Or am I just blaming the situation, people and time?

For the last 4 years my journal writing is limited to my diary. Then I started to write on my blog at my personal space. And you know, actually I am enjoying this journey. 

5 things I am Loving it #Gratitude List April 2023 

1. Study and peace

I am able to put my daughter in self study mode. With mom Peace 😉 Yes. It took time but finally we completed this years final exam without yelling. 

We enjoyed the last week of school. And happy to get the report card too. 

Grateful to the universe for the change. This is only the first step. I am very impatient in terms of my kids study in. So learning to go step by step. And I know I can do it. 

2. Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar Jayanti Celebration: 

This year was special for celebration of this Jayanti. As a child I still remember we used to go to have that procession.

And I wanted to show my daughter what is it? How big is our festival? How it is celebrated all over the world? Every year we saw this on TV. But now she is big enough and so I wanted to show her, to make feel her. 

And We went at my mummy's house. There was the grand celebration. We witnessed that with our kiddo. Yes it is quiet hectic for myself with babies. But we did it. Something different and I enjoyed it. 

Grateful that my wish completed. And able to be a part of this giant celebration after so many years .

3. Grateful to have my father:

He is on the verge of old age. Grateful that he does not have any kind of disease. When I get "pappa calling ' on my phone screen,  eyes teared. (Specially on my birthday, I know this is last call. ,😑

I saw how tough is to be at the end of the life. He didn't want to live a life but we convince him that there is still life for him.

Still he is in bed but glad, he can sit, and talk. Watch his favourite IPL match (not all but some). Not eating much, very little like a baby meal. Trying to be with us. I prey to God give him strength to live though this tough phase.

4.Summer Holiday

I still remember last summer. It was so hectic and stressful. But time flew - very slow and crucial for me.  I am happy to look back. How I nurture my twins. How I handle it all alone. How much strength I had. Grateful to the Universe for making me so strong. I did it because I am a mother. 

Finally summer is here and tried to be mindfully present in every moments. Daughter had her first bucket list and we are trying to fulfill it. 

This summer holiday is the special because she had a Date With her Pappa. Both had a Mumbai Darshan (small) one. The first date at Gate Way Of India. Enjoying this Summer break with family.

5. The bonding among my kids.

Officially now we are a big family. Family of 5. I have 3 siblings and always wanted to give that joy to my daughter. Earlier I was happy with a single kid. But then constantly this thought reminds me how we siblings are happy. That small fights, joy, eating together and playing together give immense happiness. So I wanted to give that feeling to my only child. 

Happy to see how she has nurtured her bonding with twins. She played with them, taught them, and ran with them . Taking care when mumma makes meals or does any household chores.

Truly grateful for that.

and if I yelled or said anything rubbish she would get angry with me. And make me understand by saying, "mummy they are just babies. They don't understand. "

How lucky I am to have such a mature kid. Grateful to the universe for giving me 3 girls . 

I learnt and still learning. As a mom you get evolved through many phases. It is only the way you looked at. If you start to enjoy the phase mindfully you will surprised to see how life is. It depends on you how you take it, beautiful or stressful 😊

Question of the Day 

Have you related to any of the above points? Which things you are grateful for ?

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Meri Pari - Poem for my twins in hindi

This poem is for my twin baby. Actually for my elder twin. I love her so much. Her every tiny act make me surprised and bring tears to my eyes. I know time flew very fast. 

Hain to nanhinisi,

Pyaarri badi lgati hain,

Uchal uchal ke kudke,

Pet pe meri hasati hain,

Teri smile pe fida huin mein,

Akhir tu mera hi to ansh hain,

Gale lagalu jee bhar ke,

Waqt ko roku wahi pe,

Pata hain muje to jaldi badi hogi,

Fir na samayegi is godi mein,

Aaa chum lo tuje mein aur ek baar

Rakhu samate ke ye pal hamesha ke liye.

----By Neeta Kadam

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