Rakshabandhan : Anecdote

 

It has a special place in my heart. It is my favourite festival especially after my marriage. My Aai and my sister came two days before for this festival at my father's house and we had a blast. 

With an endless night session including in deciding of breakfast, lunch and dinner. Aai always brings sweets of our choices specially Pappas favourite and we all gobble it very fast.

How do we celebrate ?

Sometimes we draw mehandi. Get up early in the morning with Pappas voice. He wakes up early and starts to wake up us early too. With his endless talk, ( kadhi uthnar, kadhi angholi karnar, lavakar utha ...n ..bla...bla..bla) 

Means he insisted on getting up early and having a bath and getting ready for the day. Whereas we all were lazy and got up one by one up to 11: 30 - ready for the day. 

Then we ate a tasty breakfast made by my Aai and began our celebration. We never saw muhurt for this because my father never believed in all this stuff. 

He gets ready first always and we saw Bhai bahan ka pyaar. She is older than him and he still bends down to touch her feet. He never sat without a handkerchief on his head. He loves to have sweets which she bought. Malai Barfi was his favourite.

Then we all siblings followed the rituals. Photosession is always there. We spend at least 1 hour in photos especially family pics. When there was no social media we tend to eat sweets as much as possible and then have a special lunch. 

My father always flows with time. He learnt social media too. He learnt how to take a selfie. 

Father's feelings for the festival: 

Rakshabandhan start with Pappa first. He was always waiting for this festival. Though he didn't speak too much with his sister, he loved her sister very much. She always bought shirt pieces and he always wears the same for next rakshabandhan. 

(With hope next generation also follow the emotional bond.)

We have been watching them since my childhood and we learned a lot. We siblings had a fight and some tough moments too. But both my pappa and my Aatya taught us how to have an emotional bond with each other.

Today my father is no more. While writing this post my eyes are filled with tears. I missed him so much. First time in life I realised we are no more without our father. He was always there for us. He taught values, respect and most importantly how to love each other in spite of having differences of opinion. 

Because

That is our family. Mummy, pappa and we 4 siblings including our base, pillar my Aatya and Tai. I wished her to have a long life and a healthy life. 

It's been 3 months. But still I feel he is with us. Watching us and showering his blessings. 

Today post is dedicated to my father and Aai. We missed you pappa. 

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अरे यार 10 वर्षाची झाली मी !

अरे यार 10 वर्षाची झाली मी …

अंग झालीस पण 10 वर्षाची बापरे!  तुला बघता कधी मोठी झालीस समजलेच नाही ग ! मोठी झालीस हे बोलण्यामागे खूप जबाबदारी आणि एक वेगळीच गम्मत आहे बरं का ...!

जेव्हा मला तुझ्या मम्मी ने सांगितले कि सई ला पेरिएडस (पाळी ) आलीय तेव्हा काय सांगू तुला जणू ह्या जगातला सगळ्यात जास्त खुश मी असेन कारण तुझ्या जन्मापासून फक्त मी आणि तुझी मम्मीच होते ना सोबत .. त्यामुळे एवढीशी तू ..आणि आज तू एवढी मोठी झालीस ..हा प्रवास आठवूनच डोळ्यात पाणी आले अर्थात आनंदाचे ..! तुला माहितीच आहे कि त्या दिवशी घरी येऊन मी काय केले .. ते फक्त माझ्या लाडक्या गुड्डू साठी ...!

पण तू ते  खूप लवकर आत्मसात केलेस ..रडली नाहीस उलट मी तुला मिठी मारून रडत होतो तेव्हा तू मला शांत केलेस .शेवटी पप्पा  आहे ना ग तुझा मी अश्या प्रसंगी रडायला येणारच ना ...!

दुसरे सांगायचं म्हणजे तू नशीबवान म्हणजे तुला जुळ्या बहिणी मिळाल्या .. आता तुमची मोठी गट्टी होणार ना..! पण एक लक्षात ठेव गुड्डू तू तुझ्या बहिणीची दुसरी मम्मी आहेस कारण तुला जेवढे छान शिकवता येईल तेवढे शिकव , मस्त बॉण्डिंग ठेवा तिघी .. मज्जा करा .. बाकी पप्पा मम्मी आहेतच ना सोबत .

आता तू मुंबई मध्ये परत आली आहेस , तुला नवीन मित्र मैत्रिणी भेटणार तुझे खरे नवीन आयुष्य सुरु होणार . शाळेत नवीन अभ्यास , नवीन शिक्षक सगळे कसे नवनवीन .. मज्जा आहे बुवा तुझी .. 

पण आता तुझी खरी परीक्षा आहे कारण सगळे लाइफ changing आहे .. खूप अभ्यास कर , छान माणूस म्हणून तयार हो आणि ते तू होशीलाच ...!

गुड्डू तुला तुझ्या 10 व्या वाढदिवसाच्या खूप शुभेच्छा .. खूप मोठी हो , खूप यश मिळो तुला .. आणि शेवटी अरे यार .. बोलायला विसरू नकोस ....

तुझा पप्पा ....

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Summer dates with Dad

Hello June 2023,

Daddy love her daughter so much and always excited to take her out. I called it Date with Dad and both love it too 😊The bonding between dad and daughter is always special and I want to save this memory on my blog as these are the special moments for us as a parents. 

We are in half of the year 2023. Is it going so fast for me or  you guys feel the same speed?  school will start and so our mom duties (dauda dauda bhaga bhaga sa) 😭😡😊

How was your summer holiday?Our was filled with fun and a little bit of stress. But I will share some happiness. 

A summer date with dad - As the title of my blog post. Why I called  a date because daddy is her favourite than a mom and she loves to travel with him. Dad get very less time but we are happy to have as much as dad can. This summer holiday we want to make it special for her because the last two year was stressful for us. Arrival of twins siblings made her happy but more responsible too (Mommy guilt is here) but I guess this is the time where she is learning what is family love.  

Daddy loves to go with the family. I am afraid to travel with a twin baby due to numerous reasons. On the last day of her school her dad asked her to make a bucket list of the places where she wants to go. It should be a one day outing only. And so she made it. Dad has only weekends and so it was packed with daddy -daughter date.😃😊 

I am so happy to see her happy. She convinced me to be with her but I denied. Cruel mum 😭 . I wanted to go out with her. But I don't want to mess her day out with dad. At least she can fully enjoy. 

So what was her bucket list? 

Sharing some major glimpses of summer date with dad. We stayed in Mumbai and she is 9 years old now. We didn't take her out because she was so small to explore Mumbai train travel. She had been to many places like Andman, Kashmir and Kerla too. When we decided to take her to the Mumbai darshan lock down started. 😑 Now we are ready (we thought ) she is ready to travel.

Summer holiday starts from the second week of April. She had to rest, sleep, screen and play for hours with friends in the first two weeks. Then our bucket list was ready and most importantly dad also got free for her daughter.

The first weekend was Gate way of India. 

Dad prepared her like, how to reach over there? 

How to take a ticket from the railway station? 

How many stations have to cross ? 

And mentally prepared her for the RUSH of the local train.

She read it in her GK book and then watched it on YouTube too. When she actually travelled with her dad, she realised how far it is and how crowded it. She loved it though it was crowded and dirty. (True!)  Not able to had a fairy round due to the crowd but she enjoyed her first date with her dad. Had ice cream only as she was too tired to eat anything. Reached home and slept.

Another weekend of the summer holiday was Nehru planetarium. Both were very excited. The first time she traveled with the A.C. local train and got frozen. 

She insisted on having a denim jacket but I was denied due to the heat. Poor my daughter,😑 but she managed. I think these are things where our children should learn how to cope up with unfavorable situations on their own, right? What do you think?

Outside look of the place

On planet

I still have not checked this place. But both of them enjoyed it.

Some To Dos if you haven't checked out: 

# You have to pre Book tickets.

# Shows are in 3 languages, Marathi, English and Hindi. You can choose as per your comfort.

# There is cafeteria so you can have snacks.  

# There are many things which we learnt about our planet in a very short time. 

Next weekend date : Pool Party. 

She had a school picnic where she was unable to enjoy because  it was in winter, and there was no pick and drop facility available. Yes, she missed many things due to our twins schedule (feel sorry for her) but we promised her to have lots of celebrations during her summer holidays. And here we are keeping our promise! 

The pool party was at the farmhouse. I don't like crowded pools and I prefer to have two families only. We had the clean and non messy pool party. Music was in moderation and with twins we  enjoyed.  

Food was awesome like home cooked. It was baby friendly too. The lawn was clean, the trees shades and whole farm was beautiful.  This date was with family and we enjoyed it fully.

And rest of summer holiday at nannis house with her cousins.  Meanwhile we enjoyed movie dates at home with bucket of homemade.popcorn and mangoes.

This post was created for the Blogaberry Creative (Monthly) Challenge.

How was your Summer holiday? 

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A letter from a dad on Saee 9th Birthday

9 years completed by my doll. Feeling hard as she grow up. Special article by her DAD. 

मोठी झालीस  ग सया तु ..अगदी बघता बघता ..चक्क आज  10 व्या वर्षात पाऊल ठेवलंस तू  

मी आणि माझी सई.........(From dad's corner)

ऐकले होते *बाप आणि मुलीचे जे नाते* असते, ते काहीतरी वेगळेच असते. पण जेव्हा स्वतः अनुभव घेतोय तेव्हा जाम भारी वाटतेय.मला नव्हते वाटले मी तुझ्यासाठी हे असे काहीतरी *सो कॉल्ड* पोस्ट वैगैरे लिहीन कारण आत्तापर्यंत तुझे माझे नाते नेहमी गुलदस्त्यात असायचे, पण का कुणास ठाऊक वाटले मला कि काहीतरी लिहू आपल्याबद्दल म्हणून लिहितोय .

प्रथम तुला *वाढदिवसाच्या अनेक अनेक शुभेच्छा*  खूप मोठी हो , हुशार हो , खूप शिक आणि जे काही शिकशील ते आचरणात असुदे आणि त्याच गर्व करू नकोस. तू सध्या वयाने लहान आहेस पुढे जाऊन वाचशील तेव्हा कळेल तुला मी काय बोललो आहे .

तुझ्या माझ्याबद्दल बोलायचे तर ,कदाचित तुला ठाऊक नसेल त्या दोन गायकांबद्दल म्हणून सांगतो तुला संदीप आणि सलील कुलकर्णी यांचे *दमलेल्या बाबांची कहाणी* ह्या गाण्यातली एक ओळ आहे ती म्हणजे *"आई म्हणण्या आधी सुध्दा म्हंणली होतीस बाबा"* हे जसाच्या तसे आपल्या बाबतीत घडले. तुला आधी पण बरेचदा सांगितले होते मी कि फक्त १० महिन्यांची होतीस तेव्हा पाहिल्यान्दा तू पप्पा असे बरोबर ९ वेळा बोलली होतीस. मला वाटले काय आहे, काय बोलतेस, मग लक्ष देऊन ऐकले तेव्हा समाजले पप्पा-पप्पा बोलतेस. अजूनही ते आठवले कि डोळ्यात पाणी येतं आणि त्या गाण्याच्या ओळी आठवतात. कदाचित त्या क्षणानंतर का असे ना पण तुझे माझे नाते अधिकच घट्ट होत गेले. खरे तर प्रत्येक बापसाठी मुलगी काय असते हे सांगायला नको.

त्या नंतर तुझी इवलीशी पावले टाकत-टाकत चालत राहिलीस. त्या पावलांची विडिओ क्लिप तुला दाखवली होती मी. आठवत असेल बघ तुला. आत्ताच बघ ना हे लिहितोय मी सकाळी उठून तर तू तिकडे पण उठून आलीस आणि विचारतेस काय लिहितोयस करून.
सध्या तर ह्या लॉक डाउनच्या काळात सतत तुझ्या सोबत असतो तर तुला जरा पण मी कुठे गेलो कि १० वेळा घरात विचारात बसतेस "पप्पा कधी येणार घरी??? पप्पा कधी येणार घरी???" अग बाळा..पप्पा कुठेही गेला तरी तू असतेस कि सोबत. तुला तुझा पप्पा सकाळपासून रात्री झोपेपर्यंत समोरच लागतो .

तुला वाटत असेल ना पप्पा कधीकधी खूप दम देतो. पण तसं नाहीये... दम देतो त्यापेक्षा १००० पटीने प्रेम पण करतो. आता भीती याची आहे कि माझे ऑफिस चालू झाल्यावर आपले कसे होणार… ना मला करमणार...ना तुला. पण खूप मज्जा येते तुझे सगळं करायला, अगदी शी शु पासून सगळे तुझे माझ्या कडेच असते आणि मी खूप एन्जॉय करतो ते .

हल्लीच एक सांगायचे तर तुझे केस कापायचे होते तेव्हा खूप रडलीस. पण नंतर मी समजावले. तेव्हा पण रडतच होतीस... पण जेव्हा तुला तुझे आवडते बार्बीचा एक सेट घ्यायचे प्रॉमिस केले तेव्हा मात्र लगेच तयार झालीस केस कापायला...शहाणी कुठची....! असो तो पण तुझ्या लहानपणीचं एक भाग आहे .आता मोठी होतेयेस. आता अजून खूप गोष्टी कळायला लागतील तुला .. पण काही नाही समजले तर नक्की पप्पाला विचार न घाबरता आणि तसे हि तू विचारशील हे मला पक्के ठाऊक आहे .

आज आठवे वर्ष लागलेय तुला .... अशीच अनेक वर्ष येतील तू मोठी होत राहशील ...पण आई-पप्पानीं सांगितलेल्या गोष्टी मात्र कायम लक्षात ठेव आणि मला विश्वास आहे तू ठेवशील ....

तुला (माझ्या *सईस* उर्फ *सयोस*) पुन्हा एकदा वाढदिवसाच्या खूप खूप शुभेच्छा...!

Disclaimer: This is a special article written by his dad for her birthday. I hope you all like it.