And She Succeed

 

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A girl's struggle start since the day she born. Then at every stage of her life she have to struggle to live her own life. Today I am sharing a story of a girl who struggle a lot to live happily. Her happiness is defines by her family and not by her and so the journey of struggle is never ending. This may be one of you. 

If being a girl you didn't experience any kind of struggle then you must be luckiest one. And those who succeed through the struggle Kudos to them for success. 

Always remember you are strong because you are a WOMAN 👠♀️

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Shruti is a smart intelligent girl who chooses fashion designing over engineering . Her parents insisted for engineering but She followed her passion.

Then like a good girl she married to a person who was 7 years older than her. Because her father wanted she should have an arranged marriage. Shruti was doing her internship at Mumbai but on one call from her father she dropped everything in the middle and went to her native places to marry a man who was chosen by her father and so by her too. She also liked him as a husband.

Initially her husband loved her so much. He still loves her but there is a huge difference in his and her love language. 

She is bold, open minded and straight forward. She expects little things from her husband like having a cup of tea, having chit chat with her, holding a  hand and walks etc.

While her husband is old fashioned. He is a purely male dominated person whereas he believes when he earns then her wife should be at home to take care of the house. He didn't care what she wanted to do. She should be at home for household chores like cooking, mopping, cleaning and also washing his undergarments etc. Even He agrees to have a maid but still he wanted shruti should stay at home. Whenever he came home he should see her face 😭

And then the quarrel started. With constant fighting they had a son too. Whereas her husband contributed zero percent towards the parenting journey and she handled it by herself. All alone, struggled to be happy mother.

Once her son started school she wanted to have her own boutique. She had it before marriage. The most luxurious boutique which was always filled with clients. She was one of the best designers at her native place. 

Now she desperately wanted to have her boutique again but the old fashioned husband was not ready to permit her. Because according to him she had zero knowledge in handling business and people. She was childish. So he did not allow her to sit on the counter to handle the query of clients.

Isn't it weird? 

She thought, he was taking care of her. 

After lots of fighting she started a fashion designing from her home only. Her business was blooming and she became one of the famous designer in her area again. She got a bunch of orders on festivals like Ganeshotsav, Navratri and Deepavali. 

Struggle, again, 

Narrow minded husband opposed her as usual. Because they had to celebrate all this festival with family at his native place.

Again she dropped everything and pretended to enjoy the festival fullest with her family. She was doing this every year. Just to have less tantrums of husbands and rest of family members. 

She was struggling to keep herself happy, to follow her passion but no one understands her. No one supported her.

They started to fights again. Many times her husband didn't respond or listened her. Infact they didn't have a normal communication because according to her he was far away to understand what she wanted. According to him she is immature childish girl. 

Struggle, never ending.

Her parents, in laws every one supported him. Everyone wanted Shruti should listen to him. Why she needs to do this work when her husband gives 10k as a pocket money. Why don't she stay at home?

She cried, frustrated and many times lost herself. She had to convince everyone. But no one was there to understand her, to support her, not even her parents.

Being a woman is a tough job where a woman can't live her life on her own terms.

With lots of fighting and lots of struggle she opened her boutique almost after 8 years. She didn't give up. She saved lots of money. She followed her dreams and  she was happy. Moreover she allowed her husband to choose the name for her boutique. 

Strange , right? Because she loves her husband. 

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Finally she succeed. 🎉🎊🎊

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What do you think? 

She won over him? 

She gets what she wants?

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There are many Shurti in our society who want to do something for themselves. 

But here I want to ask husbands, 

Why, you don't let your wife live her life?

Why can't a woman fulfill her dreams? 

Why can't she have her own money?

Why does she need to be dependent on Husband? 

Why she needs your permission? 

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 Wrap Up :  

There is struggle for every woman at every stage of life. Like Shruti we everyone has gone through the struggle. Life is difficult for girls. It will take a lots of time to change the society. Or may be not. 

But 

We as a girl, women always follow our dreams. Struggle is part of life. We learnt through our experience and we should never give up our dreams. 

Because dreams comes true. 

Believe Yourself!

I hope our society will change at least for our future generations. 

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Chaitybhumi

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It is not adventurous for you as a reader but for us being twin parents Yes! Adventure! Traveling with twin toddlers is quite adventurous because it is not easy when your stubborn toddlers are not ready to sit in a pram, not ready to walk , not ready to get down from your hand and not ready to eat anything. It is quite challenging and this year 2024 we decided to take them out as much as possible. 

Our first traveling spot within Mumbai. "Chaitybhumi"

For us Chaitybhumi is like a temple. We Buddhist used to visit this place right after our marriage, when our baby grew one year old and whenever we wanted to introduce our rituals to our children, the first place is always Chaitybhumi.

6th December is observed as Mahaparinirvan Din. Every year Millions of followers from all over India came here to pay homage to Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar on Mahaparinirva Din.

It is a pilgrimage site specially for Buddhist people. But it is open for everyone.

Okay.

What will you see at Chaitybhumi?

1) Chaitya Bhoomi hosts a memorial to Ambedkar and has been graded an A-class tourism and pilgrimage site by the Government of Maharashtra.

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2) Ashoka Pillar it is the main entrance of the Chaitybhumi and it is a replica of the stupa of Sanchi. 

3) The list of degrees of Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar. You will be surprised to see Dr. Ambedkar had 32 degrees.

4) Family Tree of Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar.  If you are curious to know about his Family history then you must see this family tree. 

5) The place is adorned with inscriptions and other markers commemorating Dr. Ambedkar's life and his dedication to the cause of social justice. Though there are few inscriptions but they are the major one in his social justice journey.

6) Statue of Gautam Buddha which is from Thailand. The statue is 7 ft and it is donated by Sanghkaya Foundation.

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7) Once you enter in the main building aka The prayer house which is circular domb shaped structure and at the centre there is statue of Gautam Buddha and Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar where you can lit a candle.

8) Books :

You can get variety of books of Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar, historical, speeches of Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar, His articles, his work on social justice, books of Mahatma Phule, Buddhism etc. But all books are available in Marathi only. 

9) Statue of Gatuam Buddha and Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar. If you are looking for a statue for your home I will suggest you to check it here. You will get a variety of statues and photo frames at reasonable prices.

10) Other accessories for car, home entrance, white Mangalsutra, Ashok Stupa keychain, Dhammachakra Keychain and many more decorative items. 

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This is the most beautiful place where you can sit, take pics and adore the beauty of Sea.

11) Last but not the least Beauty of sea and Sea Link.

In the evening you will witness the beautiful view of sea link. Check out here.

Drawback: 

# This is a prayer house and lots of people come here from all over India. These people unable to keep the place clean. Every one whoever visiting any place should take care of their own litters.

#There is no proper arrangements for the garbage specially at Sea. 

# It is near the sea - Dadar Chowpaty and so it is filled with lots of garbage which floats with waves. There should be proper system for this garbage.

Where it is located?

At Dadar Chowpaty. From Dadar Station you can take taxi and stop is Chaitybhumi.

Conclusion: 

First time I took my kids at Chaitybhumi - prayers house. They enjoyed it. Elder one is very delighted to see the prayer house and she is surprised that it is totally different from the other temples. 

(No we didn't visit any temple with her except Shirdi.)

Chaitybhumi is one of the most devoted place for Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar's (architect of our Indian constitution) followers. Because we consider him" FATHER" who give us a life. To be a human and everything like - 

Right to drink water
Right to have a good meal,
Right to have education
Right to enter in a temple,
Right to participate in elections.

And many more. Theses are the basic but most important aspect which contributes to count as a human being.

Therefore you will see the millions of followers came here to paye homage to Dr. B.R. Ambedkar.

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FAQ : 

What is the significance of Chaitybhumi?

Chaitybhumi is the cremation place of Dr. B. R. Ambedkar. The monument more than a site of a prayer.

When was Chaitybhumi built?

The Chaitybhumi inaugurated on 5th December 1971 in the eve of 15 day of Mahaparinirvana. 

What is Ambedkar Mahaparinirvana?

Ambedkar Mahaparinirvana is death Anniversary of Dr. B.R. Ambedkar is observed on 6 December of every year.

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BLW : Pink Paratha (9 months +)

Paratha is always my family's favourite breakfast though I made it once in 15 days. I don't want them to get bored by eating the same food again and again. But this paratha can be served to adults too. Increase the quantity of spices and add whatever you want to add to enhance the taste like green chilli, chat masala, red chilli powder etc. 

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Pink Paratha means it is made up of beetroot. To enhance the taste I also added carrot because carrot is my babies favourite food. This is my trick - whenever I want to introduce any new food I try to mix them with their favourite food. Chances are they will eat the food. 😇

These recipes can be given to 9 months onwards. Skip salt and red chilli powder for baby below one year old. I am using salt and basic masala for my toddler food because they also eat from our plates. Use a pinch of black pepper and garam masala it enhances the taste and this is the way you introduce masala to your baby. 

BEET CARROT PARATHA 🥕🌰

Ingredients: 

1/2 boiled and grated beetroot

1/2 boiled and grated carrot

1 TSP  crushed kasoori methi

Fistful chopped coriander leaves.

1/4 tsp garam masala

1/4 tsp black pepper powder

Salt as per taste 

1 and 1/2 cup whole wheat flour

1 tsp malai from milk to knead the flour

Direction: 

1. Mix all above ingredients in a whole wheat flour and knead soft dough. 

2. Rest it for 15 minutes.

3. Roll out small parathas.

4. Roast it on hot tawa using butter.

5. Your pinkish beetroot paratha is ready. Serve it with curd.

Tips: 

If your baby is not ready to eat try to serve in very small portion. 

Keep on serving again and again they will definitely going to eat. 

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Do you like to eat beetroot? 

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A peaceful morning with toddlers

A peaceful morning start is a great way to have a good day. Everyone wants to start a day peacefully. As a mom I am trying to have a calm morning. But it is possible only when I have my morning cup of tea -- To recharge myself and to recharge the whole house. 

Hope you relate with it mommy?

Until my twins were small babies our routine was set but as soon as they grew up and started walking my morning routine was falling down. It becomes clumsy and often I lose my temper. It was very difficult to get myself recharged for the day. 

I cried, I shouted, I screamed and finally I turned to them in front of the screen. I know none of this was going to work in the long run. I was struggling. 

When you become a mom everything depends on having a solid routine. Routine which helps toddlers to understand what they have to do and what mummy is going to do after every 10 to 15 minutes. Like, They have to brush  teeth, ( of course mummy is going to do it for them) , they have to let mumma cook breakfast for them, they have to let mumma have tea, and blaa blaa blaa....

Finally I decided to make some changes to have less tantrums in the morning. After many trials it worked. 

PATIENCE 

Every morning is different and one thing I realised is to adapt to the present time. Whatever happens I have my morning tea with light breakfast is my first priority. Then only I can start my day.

Sharing some tips how I am having peaceful morning. This helps me a lot in handling twins toddlers. It may help you to have some peace in the morning as a toddler mom. 

Morning Walk : 

Some mornings we have  a morning walk. Yes, right after waking and cuddling. Fresh morning air and sunlight freshen up three of us.  They run, walk, collect leaves, sticks and enjoy the birds tweets. We tend to go for morning walks twice a week. Yes it is twice only for less tantrums.😑 ( You know, right)

 

Dance Party 

Some mornings start on cry mode. It is very difficult to soothe both of them at the same time. So I decided to have some dance movements. Black Pink is currently our favourite and whenever I turned it on the screen both my twins began to dance. I also joined them to cheer up. We have lots of fun.

Books 

Books are the most therapeutic for everyone. I usually put two favourite books near our bed. So if they wake up in the morning and I was not nearby then they can simply get up from the bed and start flipping their book. It is the best part where I don't have to pay attentions.

Toy Box

I have this small box which I used to fill up at night. I put only two three favourite toys and kept them on our centre table in the living room. Once they get up from the bed even if they are crying they can easily get  involved with this toy Box. 

Poem Recitation:

I recited poems when they were two months old. Now one of my toddlers is very well versed with the poem. She sang by herself and that is the most adorable part for me. The way she sang in her vocabulary melts my heart. She almost sang 4 to 5 poems in her  language. Both of them enjoyed this poem recitation process with the act. Apart from morning routine It mostly happened on my twins demand too in a whole day.😇

Reading and Learning

Reading a book again and again helps them to understand the words. We all know to instill a reading habit you have to start early. 

Study shows early years ( 1 to 5 years) is very important for our kids. They learnt quickly whatever you are going to teach them. I have my own experience with my older daughter.

Books are always good over screen, right? I started to read this book when she was 5 months old. Now she knows 90% of it. She pronounced every word very well. Check it out here.

My method worked well with my older one. With the same experience I tried to repeat the pattern with twins. It was difficult but yes with patience and practice it worked.

These are some tips which worked for me to have a peaceful morning. It help my twins to calm down and help me 😁 to calm down. Being in a nuclear family and when you are the sole person to take care of everything then you must thrive on peaceful morning. Once you have set the routine everything goes smoothly. Just you need to learn to stay calm😐

Helpful key points : 

1. Always  use your experience and set things which is really helpful to you and your toddlers. Morning tantrums are irritating.

2. Do not get trapped in social media and try your own. 

3. Have patience. Yes to set a routine you have to have patience. It requires lots of time to set the routine. 

4.  Stay calm. Irritation only disturbs our mind and mood. Stay calm and connect your babies. 

5. Connect your toddlers with patience and love. 

Conclusion: 

Having a peaceful morning for a mom with toddler is very important to have a good start of the day. Chances are more to have independent play. Babies and toddlers always want to be with mommy and so be with them at least for the starting period. Once they get busy slowly get away. Observe them and let them play.

Kids learn fast when you have repeated courses of action. Be creative and keep your house filled with toys, books, music and most importantly your unconditional love.

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Do you have any specific morning routine? Are you a toddler mom and follow any special morning routine? 

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18 FUN - LOVE DATE IDEAS TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE FRESH

Dating to a husband may sound boring but trust me it will definitely bring that charm in your married life. With daily household chores, kids whether it is small babies or school going kids as parents we are too busy with them. Have you remembered when was the last time you both sat and talked about each other apart from family talks ? Have you tried any date ideas with your spouse after marriage?

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If not, then stick around with the post. No, I am not sharing  Instagram date ideas which are not possible in real life. Instead of that I am sharing with you small things which matters a lot as a couple to keep that love alive.

Okay, 

What do you mean by dating exactly? 

In today's world dating means spending your quality time with your loved ones. That could be your spouse, your friends, your dad or mom, your daughter or son or even your grandparents. We believe in this and we deliberately enjoy this kind of date night frequently. Nowadays dating is not  restricted to boyfriends and girlfriends.

Yes, Husband and wife should go on a date. Because once you become parents your priority automatically changes and you will get buried in responsibility. Both of you forget to have your own personal life too. 

I believe if parents are happy the vibes of the house will be happy. 

So , How can we date our partners?

If you have new born or toddlers and you are struggling to have husband and wife time then try out these easy indoor date night ideas filled with love and fun even when your kids are around you.

1. Video games

We all have a big screen at our home. So why not utilize it with a video game. Try to keep it short for at least 45 minutes and enjoy this video game with your spouse. It is really fun to beat your spouse.

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2. Filming a Reel

These are our favourites. Mr. Hubby is not a social media person but yes sometimes he likes to have dance reels with me. From the time of tiktok we are doing this funny dance filming date. Yes, it is filled with lots of fun, laughter and our kids also enjoyed it with us. Check out our reel here 🫢

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3. Dance Party 

Have a dance party at least twice in a month. Whenever our toddlers were crying getting out of our hands we turned the screen on and all the family danced together. 😁😁 It may sound bored to you but trust me you all will have so much fun. And the best part is your toddler get tired fast and can sleep for hours 🤫

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4.Barbeque Nights

Whenever you want to eat something restaurant style and due to babies you can't go out then try this idea. Having a barbecue set is easy and there are tons of recipes on YouTube. Have some wine and home grilled barbecue with your spouse and enjoy the date nights.

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5. Cooking Together

Date should not be at fancy restaurants or at parks only. It could be in your kitchen too. Have you done cooking with your partner? Both of you can wear the same apron and get ready to cook your favourite dishes. Try to make pizza or bake a cake for kids or cook something your family favourite. Trust me this date idea takes your love to the upper level.

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6. Recreation of drink / ice cream

Mr. Hubby and I love to have drinks ( mocktail or cocktail both 😉) and ice creams are our weakness. We used to recreate our drinks in many varieties and try to make fruit ice cream at home too. Just to have your creative juices together 😜

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7. Movie Nights 

We have enjoyed movie nights lately from last two years. Blessed to have Netflix and Disney Hotstar ( we watch mostly on these two only )  Shut down your kitchen as early as possible, Pop up some popcorn at home set some warm blankets, pillow and dim the lights of your living room, taddaaa have a fun filled movie night with your spouse. Try to do it after putting your kids to sleep .

Some outdoor date night ideas : 

If you are able to arrange a babysitter for 2 or 3 hours then try out these pocket friendly outdoor date ideas with your spouse.

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8. Cycling

As kids we used to cycle a lot. Recreate  your childhood memories with your husband. We all have cycles at home. Why not have a race with your husband. Or even go on cycling for particular miles. This is one of the soothing experiences. Workout with enjoyment 😄

9. Badminton/ Basket Ball 

From winter vacation everywhere you can see children playing badminton and basketball. Have you played with your spouse? Try it. You will have fun and most importantly your kids will enjoy watching both of you.  This badminton or basketball ball activity is filled with lots of fun, laughter and of course love. 

10. Star Gazing 

Once in a while try to go out for star gazing with your spouse. You just have to go to your Terrace with a pillow and mat. Lay down with your spouse and enjoy star gazing. Did you remember when was the last time you saw the night sky ? 

You can enjoy this activity with your kids too. No need to have a babysitter. This is a really beautiful date night idea. 

11. Kulfi/ Gola Date

As kids we ate lots of kala khatta or mataka kulfi. Go on a night walk and if you are blessed to have matak kulfi vala or gola in your neighborhood then enjoy it with your spouse. Definitely visit this thela and recreate your childhood memories with your spouse and give the same happiness to your kids.

13. Sip and Paint Class 

If your budget is a little bit high then you can attend this sip and paint party. Where you can sip and learn painting. These are quite popular in these days. You can find it in your nearest area and have this thrilling party with your spouse.

13. Dance Class 

If you and your partner love to dance, then join any dance workshop together. There are many promotional dance workout workshops. You can register and Enjoy this dance class with your spouse. This brings really lots of happiness and fun.

14. Workout 

If both of you are exercise freaks then try to sign up for Jim. Or else you can do it at home too. Have a designated area at your home. Filled with minimum exercise equipment and voila, have a workout fun with your Spouse. 

15. Live Show : 

Try to attend a live show. I remember the last time we witnessed the Jubin Nautiyal Live show in our neighborhood. It was so so thrilling. Try to enjoy this kind of thrilling date.

16. Evening at beach

If you have a beach area nearby then try to visit at least quarterly. Spend time with sand, sea, sun and your romantic husband and your kids. Don't forget to try out various activities at the beach. Like paragliding, boat races, banana boats and  making sand castles with kids.

17. Long Drive On a Bike 

This is my all time favourite. Long drive on bike with your spouse. You may have this long drive before marriage. Try to include this long drive on a monthly basis. Just you and your spouse can go on long drives, have tea at tapari and enjoy the breeze. Forget all household stress and just enjoy the long road with a gentle breeze and hold your spouse tightly.

18. Coffee Date 

Last but not the least. If your spouse loves to have a coffee then try to have a coffee date with a twist. Find out about the newly opened cafe and dare to try out a new place and new coffee. We always wanted to check out new places and variety of coffee.

Conclusion: 

Having a date night with a husband is a must to maintain harmony in your life. Our kids are watching us, observing us and learning. Creating a fun  and love-feel environment not only brings happiness but also uplifts our home vibes. A loving and laughing parent is the only kids need to see. We all had stress but I think this is the only way to deal with your tiny or biggest problem as a parent and as a husband and wife. 

Question of the day

What is your  favourite date night ideas? Share your most memorable date in the comment section. 

Till then have fun. 

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