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A girl's struggle start since the day she born. Then at every stage of her life she have to struggle to live her own life. Today I am sharing a story of a girl who struggle a lot to live happily. Her happiness is defines by her family and not by her and so the journey of struggle is never ending. This may be one of you.
If being a girl you didn't experience any kind of struggle then you must be luckiest one. And those who succeed through the struggle Kudos to them for success.
Always remember you are strong because you are a WOMAN 👠♀️
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Shruti is a smart intelligent girl who chooses fashion designing over engineering . Her parents insisted for engineering but She followed her passion.
Then like a good girl she married to a person who was 7 years older than her. Because her father wanted she should have an arranged marriage. Shruti was doing her internship at Mumbai but on one call from her father she dropped everything in the middle and went to her native places to marry a man who was chosen by her father and so by her too. She also liked him as a husband.
Initially her husband loved her so much. He still loves her but there is a huge difference in his and her love language.
She is bold, open minded and straight forward. She expects little things from her husband like having a cup of tea, having chit chat with her, holding a hand and walks etc.
While her husband is old fashioned. He is a purely male dominated person whereas he believes when he earns then her wife should be at home to take care of the house. He didn't care what she wanted to do. She should be at home for household chores like cooking, mopping, cleaning and also washing his undergarments etc. Even He agrees to have a maid but still he wanted shruti should stay at home. Whenever he came home he should see her face 😭
And then the quarrel started. With constant fighting they had a son too. Whereas her husband contributed zero percent towards the parenting journey and she handled it by herself. All alone, struggled to be happy mother.
Once her son started school she wanted to have her own boutique. She had it before marriage. The most luxurious boutique which was always filled with clients. She was one of the best designers at her native place.
Now she desperately wanted to have her boutique again but the old fashioned husband was not ready to permit her. Because according to him she had zero knowledge in handling business and people. She was childish. So he did not allow her to sit on the counter to handle the query of clients.
Isn't it weird?
She thought, he was taking care of her.
After lots of fighting she started a fashion designing from her home only. Her business was blooming and she became one of the famous designer in her area again. She got a bunch of orders on festivals like Ganeshotsav, Navratri and Deepavali.
Struggle, again,
Narrow minded husband opposed her as usual. Because they had to celebrate all this festival with family at his native place.
Again she dropped everything and pretended to enjoy the festival fullest with her family. She was doing this every year. Just to have less tantrums of husbands and rest of family members.
She was struggling to keep herself happy, to follow her passion but no one understands her. No one supported her.
They started to fights again. Many times her husband didn't respond or listened her. Infact they didn't have a normal communication because according to her he was far away to understand what she wanted. According to him she is immature childish girl.
Struggle, never ending.
Her parents, in laws every one supported him. Everyone wanted Shruti should listen to him. Why she needs to do this work when her husband gives 10k as a pocket money. Why don't she stay at home?
She cried, frustrated and many times lost herself. She had to convince everyone. But no one was there to understand her, to support her, not even her parents.
Being a woman is a tough job where a woman can't live her life on her own terms.
With lots of fighting and lots of struggle she opened her boutique almost after 8 years. She didn't give up. She saved lots of money. She followed her dreams and she was happy. Moreover she allowed her husband to choose the name for her boutique.
Strange , right? Because she loves her husband.
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Finally she succeed. 🎉🎊🎊
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What do you think?
She won over him?
She gets what she wants?
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There are many Shurti in our society who want to do something for themselves.
But here I want to ask husbands,
Why, you don't let your wife live her life?
Why can't a woman fulfill her dreams?
Why can't she have her own money?
Why does she need to be dependent on Husband?
Why she needs your permission?
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Wrap Up :
There is struggle for every woman at every stage of life. Like Shruti we everyone has gone through the struggle. Life is difficult for girls. It will take a lots of time to change the society. Or may be not.
But
We as a girl, women always follow our dreams. Struggle is part of life. We learnt through our experience and we should never give up our dreams.
Because dreams comes true.
Believe Yourself!
I hope our society will change at least for our future generations.
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True, there are many shrutis still struggling to find a place for themselves. Only if they wok beyond the opposition, will there be success.
ReplyDeleteYes. Janaki
DeleteYour story highlights the story of many women across our country. It is sad that so many girls and women are unable to realise their true potential because of the patriarchal norms of of our society.
DeleteSocial conditioning can be really effective in telling us what we can or cannot achieve. It can get so loud that our voice falters. I'm glad Shruti found a way to succeed :)
ReplyDeleteGlad you liked it
DeleteMy grandma used to say that a woman's life is always full of struggle from the day she's born. But times have changed and I feel women have only brought this change.
ReplyDeleteWomen only bring change
DeleteShruti's longing to reclaim her identity and pursue her passion for fashion designing by opening her own boutique is a powerful symbol of her determination to carve out her own path. It's a reminder that no matter how many obstacles stand in her way, she remains steadfast in her pursuit of happiness and fulfillment.
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DeleteShruti's longing to reclaim her identity and pursue her passion for fashion designing by opening her own boutique is a powerful symbol of her determination to carve out her own path. It's a reminder that no matter how many obstacles stand in her way, she remains steadfast in her pursuit of happiness and fulfillment.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone should go through a struggle in order to succeed. Otherwise, they are surely doing something wrong. Glad Shruti found success!
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DeleteReading Shruti's story was quite touching. It's disheartening to see someone struggle against societal expectations and even within their own family. It's clear that Shruti had to navigate through numerous challenges just to pursue her passions and carve out her own path in life. Her determination and resilience shine through her story, and it's inspiring to see her eventually succeed despite all the obstacles in her way.
ReplyDeleteI can't help but feel empathy for her, facing resistance at every turn, even from those who should support her the most. It's frustrating to witness her husband's narrow-mindedness and the lack of understanding from her family. Yet, Shruti's story also highlights the strength and perseverance that many women possess, pushing forward against the odds to achieve their dreams.
Her journey reminds us of the ongoing struggle for women's empowerment and the need for societal change. No woman should have to fight for the right to pursue her passions, to have her own identity, and to be respected as an equal partner in a relationship. Shruti's story serves as a reminder that despite the challenges, women should never give up on their dreams and always believe in themselves.
Ultimately, Shruti's success is a testament to her resilience and determination. She may have faced numerous obstacles along the way, but she never lost sight of her goals. Her story is a beacon of hope for all the Shruti's out there, showing that with perseverance and self-belief, dreams can indeed come true.
Thank you Moni for reading and commenting.
DeleteNeeta, after reading this story it seemed to be clear that not allowing Shruti to work wasn't just to protect her but also enjoy the status of the sole breadwinner of the family. I think if you have a dream and believe in yourself, you will have to fight for them even if it means you might lose, giving it a shot is important.
ReplyDeleteWe woman always have to fight to achieve our dreams.
DeleteThere are many Shruti's in our world, those who are trapped in the box the family had caged them in. Glad you brought out her struggle.
ReplyDeleteGlad you liked it 💜💜
DeleteNeeta your story beautifully portrays the struggles and resilience of women like Shruti who navigate societal expectations and fight for their dreams. It's a powerful reminder of the challenges many women face in pursuing their passions and independence. Shruti's journey is a testament to the strength and determination of women to overcome obstacles and achieve their goals, despite facing opposition and lack of support from their families and society. Her perseverance and courage to pursue her dreams despite the odds is truly inspiring.
ReplyDeleteYour message urging husbands to support their wives' aspirations and questioning societal norms that restrict women's autonomy resonates deeply. I know a great example in my own circle when the woman of the house is badly dominated by the man and she is helpless and the revenge she tries to take on her daughter in law. It's a call to challenge patriarchal structures and advocate for gender equality, empowerment, and the right of every woman to live her life on her own terms. Thank you for sharing this thought-provoking story and advocating for women's rights and empowerment. May Shruti's story inspire others to fight for their dreams and create a more inclusive and equitable society for all. I am blessed to have a supportive father and husband who wanted me to grow in life along with them as a confident and strong woman.
Not everyone blessed to have support from husband or father. Not everyone lucky.
DeleteOh, this story reminds me a lot of my friend's life. She's been through a divorce and is now married again, but her second husband is just like the first one. I'm happy to see that she's working and living life on her own terms despite all the struggles.
ReplyDeleteStruggle is for every Shruti
DeleteShruti survived because she found a way to do so. How many women go through this kind of turmoil before they finally break out of it? Thank God Shruti's struggle ended in her success.
ReplyDeleteEvery girl in India is a Shruti, I feel. Even in the most progressive families, even if the girl works she has to face male harassment at her work place or struggle to make it to the top.
ReplyDeleteTrue Jeet. Don't know when this situation will change
DeleteHusbands just forget that they are a team to their wives and they are not competitors . The fragile male ego must be handled from a young age and may be then Shrutis will have a easier journey. Chinmayee Gayatree Sahu
ReplyDeleteTrue Chinmayee
DeleteShruti is so us, every woman. We always have to fight for our dreams and sacrfice in the name of being a woman and prioritise others. Most men underestimate what a woman can achieve and want to keep us from realizing our dreams as mere trophy wifes. I don't know if what she did was right in the end, but maybe it was her only way out.
ReplyDeleteShruti is so us, every woman. We always have to fight for our dreams and sacrfice in the name of being a woman and prioritise others. Most men underestimate what a woman can achieve and want to keep us from realizing our dreams as mere trophy wifes. I don't know if what she did was right in the end, but maybe it was her only way out.
ReplyDeleteAwwww... I hear you Neeta. Yes, there are Shruti's everywhere. Sometimes even if the husband is supportive, the in laws are not. Thankfully, your Shruti fought to make her dreams come true n emerged victorious.
ReplyDeleteYou know what? where I come from, the ulta is true, all women work outside their homes. When I tell them I am a homemaker they ask me, 'what do u do all day' cuz the women there manage both house n work without help of maids etc. it's really admirable!
I cant help but notice the reflection of the social conditioning through out the story which is a by product of patriarchy and knowing that these stories happen in real life as well is a reminder that we have a lot to work. Thank you for sharing such a poignant story. I am glad our blog hop could be one of the catalyst.
ReplyDeleteThese are some great questions that every woman must ask when backed into the corner. You're right that there are many Shruti's in the world still. Times are changing but not fast enough. Much potential is lost with the women workforce bullied out of the race. Thank you for writing a happy ending. There are few of those in our country but it was very hopeful reading it
ReplyDeleteNeeta your story is so thought provoking and very realistic for sure. Shruti's life is not successful in my way , she never got support from her husband or family. Now it is called compromise what she is agreed to do.
ReplyDeleteShruti's story is that of almost every woman, especially in India. Hope things get better with time.
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