OUR DIWALI 2025

Diwali 2025 is the special one because my little twins are now 3.5 years old, old enough to understand what the festival is and which rituals we follow. This year I was quite excited and happy for the festival. I remembered when I was unmarried my shopping never finished till the last day, but after becoming a mother, it changed the whole perspective. Shopping has shifted for my kiddos only. I barely think about my clothing or accessories but am ready to search for cute things for my twins and the elder one.

1.SHOPPING FUN  : 

After 3 years this Diwali I shopped with my daughter, and after roaming for 2 hours, I was able to get 3 dresses. Out of which I am not at all satisfied, but still I purchased it. So what was the fun thing?

In my area, near my building, there was a lady who put up a stall for ladies' dresses and kids' frocks. I was watching her from my balcony daily, and on the day of Laxmi pujan, I went there to see if I could get any traditional frock for my Sia. And bingo, I got the best one, which is in my budget. I was too surprised and felt foolish. Instead of roaming in the outside area where I pay more than the necessary amount, I should visit this shop first. So this was one of the fun things I will remember always. Does this happen with you?

2. RAIN : Diwali 2025 is a rainy Diwali. On Laxmi Pujan there was a thunderstorm and rain. All the rangoli, lanterns, Akashkandil, diya, flowers, and the open market with all the festival things got wet. 🥺 Still, kids enjoyed their firecrackers. 🧨

3. RANGOLI :  This Diwali I want to have flower rangoli, and I ordered 1/2 kg of flowers. But rain ruined everything. On that day we didn't have lights, and with air and rain, every rangoli was washed off. 😕After 6:30 I drew rangoli, which was funny. I was too tired and in a blackout; I drew some flowers and rangoli too.

4. DIYA :  Laxmipujan, there was no light, and finally we lamped out so many diyas. We also have some candles and some diyas.

5. LAXMIPUJAN IN BLACKOUT : 

There was no sign of lights until 8 pm. Then I finally make my kids ready. Put on all the beautiful dresses and bangles and put on a little bit of makeup. I wore only a sari, and with my bun, we did puja.

We didn't take a single picture of this Diwali 2025. 🥺

CONCLUSION : 

Only one happy ending: the daughter went with her father downtown and enjoyed firecrackers. 🧨 🧨 🧨This way we celebrate our Diwali 2025 in blackout.

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What are fun things you remember of this diwali?

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RULES FOR VISITING NEW BORN BABY

Hi, मी मोठी आई झाले. 🤩

Yes, I became a big mumma. My brother-in-law had a baby on Diwali, and we all are very happy. I encountered some rules in the hospital. This is my fifth time prescribing these rules for visitors. Actually, Mummy and Daddy. 

Because every visitor is so excited, and everyone wants to touch the baby, and I don't like it because it is practically not hygienic. And that's why I am writing this blog post. 

Rules you have to follow when you meet a new baby in the hospital or at home. 

RULES FOR VISITING NEW BORN 

1. WASH HAND :  Whenever you enter the hospital, use sanitizer or soap to clean your hands. If you are visiting at home, make sure you wash your hands and feet properly. 

2. Do not take the baby in your hand: A newbornbaby is delicate, and I strictly said no if anyone wants to take the baby in hand. It is not necessary. You can watch it by keeping some distance and giving your love and blessings to the baby.

3) NO KISS : Even if you bring a newborn home, do not allow anyone to kiss the baby except Mummy and Daddy. No grandfather or grandmother should kiss the baby. There is more chance of getting an infection. 

3) NO PICTURE CLICK : When you visit the baby in the hospital or at home, please do not click the picture. Ask for the picture from the parents if they take it. 

4) Stay away if you are sick: If you are sick or having any kind of cough and cold, then please avoid visiting the newborn baby. 

5) SHORT VISITING TIME : visiting time should be short, 15 minutes only. Because there are lots of people who want to visit the hospital and bring lots of stuff. So parents request everyone to have short visiting times so that Mumma and baby do not get tired.

6) NO STRONG PERFUME:  A newborn baby is delicate, so avoid wearing strong perfume. 

7) NO LOUD SPEAKING IN THE HOSPITAL : When relatives visit, they start talking in such a loud voice because they are extremely happy, and so they forget that the mother needs peace. Please keep your talks short and in a low voice.

8) NO ADVICE :  New parents are overwhelmed, so don't give tons of advice. Just one or two advice is okay rest of the things they manage. If they asked, then only give your advice; otherwise, don't spread your gyan. 

9 ) NO WHAT'S UP STATUS : Some people are so hurry to display everything on social media. You don't need to post it on WhatsApp story or on nay other social media. Because it is not your baby. So respect the parents privacy maintain your boundaries.

10 ) NO COMMENTS FOR BABY :  Every new born baby is unique and beautiful. Do not make any comments like he is so black, so white or anything. You don't need to make any good or bad comment for the baby.

CONCLUSION : 

I strongly followed these rules and get most hate from visitors. But I don't care because at the end it is only you and your baby. No one is going to come to help you when your baby get sick or even in your postpartum period. So stick to this rules and have a healthy baby. 

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What kind of rules you follow when you become a mommy ? 

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मम्मा ऐक ना!

Hello and welcome to my blog. Parenting is one of the toughest jobs ever, in which you have no income and you have to devote your mind, body, and money too. 😬 Every kid is unique, and so is the parenting too. I believe there is something to learn from each kid.

Here I am going to share what I learned from my kid. After becoming a parent, I realized parenting is the journey where you constantly learn from your kid and grow as human beings. My 11 years of parenting experience reveal many hidden parts of my strength.

I have my twins, and they are 3 years old. The elder one is the chatterbox who is constantly talking, and I love this phase where she learns new words and language and tries to interact with us like elders.

The constant phrase she used, "मम्मा ऐक ना," means Mumma, listen please.

And I put everything off, like screens, books, or my household chores, and listen to whatever she is going to talk with me about.

I even stopped talking with my older one, and we both listened to her tiny talk. 😄 Most of the time she repeats what she heard from her sisters' talk. And we listen and try to reciprocate.

So here I learned your kids want you to listen. Though they may sound funny, you have to listen. And if you want your child to listen to you, then start listening to them first.

Question of the day

What did you learn from your kid? Have you listened to them?

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Saee Turns 12

 Officially 12 now.

This year is very difficult year for her and I am struggling as a mother to reshape her mind. Shifting makes her unstable and she found it difficulties in adopting new home, new school and new neighbourhood. 

SAEE BIG SISTER 

One thing is sure that she loves her twins sister very much. Both sisters are her favourite like a Teddy Bear. She adore, hug and play with them whenever she can. Little sister copy everything from her DIDI which sometimes makes her annoying but then I have to tell her you are exactly like her. You used to do whatever we parents did. 

I must say she is my helping hand and handle twins very well whenever I required. Siblings love each other, fight with each other but still they want to be with each other. I adore the way both sister wave a goodbye to DIDI to school and when she returns they giggles. That love between these siblings melt my heart. 

THINGS I ADORE 

Family : Unlimited love for her twins sisters and cousins 

Friends : Struggling to make new but I can proudly say she have new 3 friends. Still she love her old friends and still they connected via text and call.

Sketching : Her new world is sketching. I am very surprised to see her improvement. Self taught and brilliant Skechers. She spend most of the time in sketching and I also don't bother her to stop doing that and study. 

Independent,  Responsible daughter: 

She understands the responsibility and sometimes acting like a more mature girl. Yes she wanted to have her own time and twin sisters sometimes give her hard time also. I tried to give her own time and let her live her life also. 

Watching Screen :

 Yes, screen is the most important part of her life. She learnt sketching and learnt many more things which inspired her a lots. I am very relieved that she is still not into any stupid reels, shorts or any make up videos. Yes she learning skin care and basic make up and teaching me too 😄 I love this part. 

Listening Music 

Music is her favourite thing. Her choice is incredible. I love each song she suggested me. We always watch songs on big screen and no wonder my 3 years old learnt all songs of BTS and BLACKPINK 💕

Eating : Saee loves to eat variety of food. She is foodie and love to eat quality food. 

Trying new food : Her love to try Korean food is beyond my imagination. Yea she tried many things at home only because we living in such area now where we can't access the Korean restaurant. I wonder, can she really eat that ? 

Roming with mummy : 

I am very much happy she love her mother very much. Currently she is not having any friends in our building and she trying as per her level. I found it is very difficult to make a new friends at new place. 

The best part is she love to roam with me in neighbourhood. We both are exploring this new area. She often asked me to have scooty ride and walk around our neighborhood. 

Shopping in super market.

This is the one thing she learnt. She can independently shop in this big super market. Her choice is high class but at the same time she realised we have our own budget. And she always stick to the budget and not randomly purchasing anything. I feel proud for that 

Losing intrest 

Yes, I feel very sad to see that she loose intrest quickly. This can be pre teen era or I don't know but I saw this major shift in her. I can't force her to keep going. If she doesn't like then she never tried that things. 

I hope she will not loose intrest in her studies. I am trying to make study time  interesting as I can because she still needs me in her studies and I love that. 

As I said , this year is bit difficult for her. While she is struggling to have a new friends and so she is mostly homesick. Love to roam with mummy whenever possible. She often asked me to have a scooty ride or walk in a neighborhood. I am actually delighted to be with her. I love to roam with her and chatting never end.

Slowly and steadily she will adapt new life. Sometimes it bothers me a lot but still I am not forcing her to do particular thing. I think when kids are ready they will do things. We should not forced them because we don't know what bothers them exactly and more over I believe that giving them time to adjust is the best way. 

Favourite Food : 

All kind of fruits. All kinds of paratha except methi and palak Paratha. Chicken, mutton, and panner. Chicken and mutton biryani. Biscuits, cookie, cakes, khari, butter, pizza, Burger, 

Favourite Drink : Milk, coffee (sometimes only), mogu mogu korean drink 

Favourite Show : Aayu pihu show, BTS of BTS and BLACKPINK, japan and Korean travel vlogs, and study vlogs. Love to watch Maharashtrachi Hasya Jatra, TMKOC Tarak Mehta Ka Olta Chashma show. 

Favourite Movie:

This year she explore horror movies 

Conjuring, Anabella and Korean webseries with mummy 

Favourite songs : BTS - Life goes on , Blood, swat and tears  in short ( BTS army )

Favourite colour : Purple 

Favourite outfit: Jackets, one piece, shorts at home only,  jeans, long loose t- shirts most black, don't like frocks at all. 

Favourite Book : Geronimo Stilton series. 

Love to read aloud with twin sisters 

Favourite things to do : Playing with twin sisters, sketching, sensory play with sisters, writing, journling, watching movies with family. Drinking water from the jug 

Wake time : Saee generally wake up around 9 to 9 :30 am and sleep around 11:30 pm

Likes

• Family Friends
• Twin siblings and cousins 
• Eat
• Drink
• Watching sunsets
• Listening music 
• Sketching 
• Sensory Play
• Walking 
• Riding 
• Exploring 

My first little doll slowly turning into a teenager. I wish you to have healthy and happy life. Keep exploring new things and be adaptable. 

KHIDKI VADA PAAV

The post is for #Blogchatterfoodfest

Prompt: Favorite Eating Joint in My City.

I was born and brought up in Kalyan. There are many old eating joints that still provide delicious food. 

One of them is Khidki Vada Paav. 

HISTORY BEHIND KHIDAKI VADA PAAV :

Every famous dish has its own and unique history. I know this because my father used to eat this vada paav. 

The owners have been selling Khidki Vada since 1960 and till date provide the same delicacy. The owner of this outlet sold vada paav from his house window, and so the name is "Khidki Vada." He is the person. 

who actually brought the Mumbai version of the burger into existence. 

Where: 

Khidki Vada, Tilak Chowk,

Kalyan West.

Rating: 4.5/5

There are now many outlets available in different stations like Ulhasnagar, Badlapur, etc.

We went to this vada paav center when I was in school/college. It was our favorite. Even today, if I visit my mom, I ask my brother to bring the same vada paav.

WHAT MAKES IT SPECIAL ?

The Potato Vada: 

The vada is bigger than any other vada. The taste of that potato sabji is authentic and desi—pure Maharashtra style. 

The coating of the besan is very thin. You will never feel that you are eating besan only. In fact, you will actually taste potato sabji and not the outer cover. 

THE CHUTNEY : 

They provide two types of chutney—garlic chutney and green chutney. And of course fry green chilies. 

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MONSOON TIPS FOR A FAMILY

I love monsoon, especially roaming with an umbrella, those muddy puddles, and wearing raincoat and muddy toes. Ahhh...!

When this happened (in my working Era)I used to get irritated. But now as a stay-at-home mom, I am craving this. 😬

TRUE!

All stay-at-home mommies, can this be relatable?

Last Sunday we went to Reliance for a monthly grocery visit in the rain. There were muddy puddles, and my little one always asked me to take her in the rain. I took her; she enjoyed it a lot, got wet, and jumped in muddy puddles, and I too enjoyed this phase. Without worrying and irritating her, I let her enjoy the way she wants.

That is my achievement. 🤩 Calming, Mom!

Anyways, this will not happen every day. ☹️ Sharing here some tips that I have followed for the last 8 years, especially for monsoon, to keep my family healthy.

MONSOON TIPS FOR A FAMILY : 

1. DECLUTTER YOUR BALCONIES

We tend to put unused things on the balcony, like a toy cycle stool. The list will never end. Make sure before the monsoon to declutter your balconies. Keep it empty and clean so that even if water comes inside you, you can quickly wipe it, and there is less chance of insects and mosquitoes.

2. MOSQUITO NETTING ON WINDOWS 

In summer we used to keep open windows, but in monsoon don't forget to put up netted windows. This will help in preventing bugs, houseflies, and mosquitoes in your house.

3. WATER PURIFIER 

Most of the diseases are waterborne. To take extra care of your family, use a purifier. Take a new water purifier if you don't have one or do maintenance before the monsoon starts. So that you can have clean water. Carry home water in bottles wherever you go.

4. HOT /LUKEWARM WATER

If any of your family members feel cold, don't forget to have a hot water intake. Try to have it on rainy days so that it will keep your kids and other family members warm. Generally I used to give them lukewarm water to drink every day in the monsoon.

5. PRECAUTIONS WHILE BUYING VEGETABLE: 

Avoid leafy vegetables and root vegetables. I still took carrot and ginger, as these are staples because chai to adrak b ke bina nahi banati. Avoid buying cauliflower, and cabbage.

6. Soups SOUPS MANDATORY IN DIET

Homemade veggie-loaded soups are a must in kids diets. Though in market there are readymade soups available. Ditch that packaged food and try to make at home. Fresh and hygiene soups should be there in your meals. I tried to make it at least twice in a week. Check out the easy recipe of corn soup 

7. GUMBOOT, UMBRELLA  and RAINCOAT

These are mandatory. Check it out once it is available in the house to see whether it is in good condition. Buy new only if needed. But each member should have an umbrella or raincoat. Monsoon sandals are also mandatory. Moms, don't forget to buy a new pair for you even if you are staying at home.

8. HYGIENE :

Keeping your kids safe during monsoon is a very tough job. Make a habit of washing hands with soap and water before eating anything. Also wash your kids hands, legs, and toes properly with mild soap after playing.

9. TRAVEL KIT IN MONSOON : 

Rainy season and travel are the most important parts of life. Don't forget to go out in lovely weather with your babies and kids. However, you need to take extra care while travelling with babies or small kids.

Carry the following things while travelling in monsoon:

- Sturdy bags to accommodate enough things.

- Carry bags to put wet clothes or garbage.

- Wet wipes to wipe out dirt.

- Raincoat and rainy season shoes

- Clean water bottles

- Diapers and sanitizer

- Extra pair of clothes, hand towels, and handkerchief

- homemade dry snacks like chakali, chikki, laddu, etc.

- Mosquito repellent spray.

10. DRESS ACCORDINGLY MONSOON :

Although if it is not raining and kids want to play outside, put on a full-sleeved t-shirt and full pants to cover their whole body. And once they returned home, they took out those clothes and put them in the washer. Have clothes which can dry easily in monsoon season. Avoid heavy fabric clothes. 

CONCLUSION:

Monsoon season is one of the most beautiful seasons of the year. It is a natural cleanser of the earth. Don't keep your kids inside the house only. Let them get wet, let them play, and let them enjoy the rain. With the above tips, you can take precautions to protect your kids and families. Don't forget to enjoy yourself too.

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ADOLESCENCE

Everyone is talking about this short series on Netflix. I can't resist myself and after watching it - it hits hard as a parent. The younger generation are facing so much social pressure which is beyond our understanding. 

PS : Google 

ABOUT THE SERIES: 

It is a series where 13 year old Jammi Miller gets arrested early in the morning from his home. And his act  turns his parents life upside down and is giving us a panic attack as a parent. 

This 4 episode series revolves around the crime investigation of the 13 years old boy. The boy belongs to the middle class family. Jammie Millers stabs her classmate Katie. And the crime investigation started. The police, the lawyer and the psychologist - everyone efforts to find out what was the motive behind the murder? 

REVIEW :

He doesn't have any past or have any worst friend circle. Even his parents raise him with good standards. They are loving parents and do not have any fights inside the house. 

In short where everything around Jimmi was favourable no one can digest that he can do a murder. 

The last episode makes you cry, devastated and introspect. Parents try to give him everything whatever they can. They try to teach him sports, arts and music but he doesn't have any interest because he has been into Social media. And when they said he was always inside his bedroom he was safe. But what he was doing inside the bedroom upto midnight? No one care. 

ADOLESCENCE CAST 

Owen Cooper as Jamie Miller

Stephen Graham as Eddie Miller, Jamie’s father

Ashley Walters as Detective Inspector Luke Bascombe

Erin Doherty as Briony Ariston, the clinical psychologist assigned to Jamie’s case

Faye Marsay

Christine Tremarco

Mark Stanley

Jo Hartley

Amlie Pease

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After watching this series, I think we parents should ask a few questions to ourselves.

Are we really busy ?

Do we have any connection with our children?

Do We need to give everything to them ? 

Is it necessary to have a mobile phone at the age of 10 ? 

Are we able to put our butt in their life? 

Can we read our children's minds?

I know we can't pay attention to everything. But I think there should be limits on demands, social media usage. 

Important lessons I learnt from this series are : 

• They want respect.
• They want to listen without judgement.

We often think a girl child is not safe but I was wrong. Even a boy child is also not safe. Our children are not safe outside as well as inside the house too. 

• Only if we know what they are doing? 
• What is going on in their mind? 
• Are they getting bullied in school or even on the playground?
• Are we able to talk with them?

CONCLUSION: 

Adolescence is the stage where they are no more kids and not adults yet. Their major part of the brain is developing. The more chances they will get in the wrong way. It is really necessary to have connections with them. We should talk daily and give them love and respect. Parents should maintain a friendly atmosphere at home where children can share every tiny thing. 

Facing this Adolescence age is very difficult for the parents. But with the right approach we can sail the boat. 

Yes it is possible? What do you think? 

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