LGBTQ INDIAN MOVIES CHANGE MY PERSPECTIVE ABOUT RAINBOW LOVE

There are two famous LGBTQ (I believe) couple on Instagram. I saw their reels actually tiktok. They both are girls. One of them is tomboy but very cute. People adore her more. And moreover they both are Indian. I don't remember the name but yes they both are adorable. I like them. They do not post any wierd video. My awareness about LGBTQ started from these couples from tik tok. 

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Lesbian, gay, LGBTQ and Rainbow I heard these terms and still feel cringe. I can't tolerate seeing the same sex couple on screen.  In real life I don't see such couples. I became uncomfortable when I saw or read such LGBTQ things.

Due to social media people are becoming aware about this RAINBOW Love. Laws has been made for them and Indian screen also showcasing this love in the series and movies. The awareness make me aware regarding this kind of RAINBOW Love. Earlier I used to make fun about it. 

But time has changed now. 3 movies has changed my whole perspective towards RAINBOW love. I am able to understand the feeling of LGBTQ. In reality I still have not come across such a person while Mr. Hubby saw many such kind of couple but still I feel yuk. 

I know everyone is different and every person has his own emotions and feelings regarding love. I realised these when I watched these movies. 

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LGBTQ INDIAN MOVIES CHANGE MY PERSPECTIVE ABOUT RAINBOW LOVE 

1. Ek Ladki Ki Ko Dekha To Asia Laga

Genre : Romance/Comedy 

Platform : Netflix 

Rating : 3/5

Sonam Kapoor played the role of Ek ladki who is different since her childhood. Her mother identifies it at a very early age but her father is not ready to accept this. 

The movie shows how many difficulties such person has. How she fights for her identity and her love.

ABOUT THE MOVIE 

The movie is directed by Shally Dhar and produced by Vidhu Vinod Chopra. The bold subject of LGBTQ story is very well portrayed by Sonam Kapoor. The main strengths of the movie are the  performances of these actors - Anil Kapoor,  Raj Kumar Rao, Juhi Chawala and Sonam Kapoor. 

The subject of the film is bold but you will not be uncomfortable while watching it. It definitely touches your heart. 

The music of the film is soothing and matching with the pace of the film.

Why do I like it ?

The film is unique with bold subjects and has a beautiful message to society about love. Love can be in different forms. 

I like the movie though it is slow. Sonam's acting is awesome but somewhere it goes to the negativity. Climax is a little bit complicated. Raj Kumar Rao's performance made me watch the movie. Overall it is good movie.

2. Badahi Do 

Genre : Comedy/ Drama

Platform: Netflix 

Rating : 4/5

The movie is about the LGBTQ couple who agreed to marry for the convenience of their parents so that they can live their life as they want. The drama started with confusion and laughter.

About the Movie : 

Badahi Do is directed by Harshwardhan Kulkarni.  Shardul a gay cop and Suman a lesbian teacher and their fight to have their own life. The movie revolves around this couple who find lots of challenges about their relationship and their future. Must watch to see How this couple fought for themselves and for their future without compromising on social norms. 

Why do I like it ?

Because of Raj Kumar Rao and Bhumi Pendenkar's performances. Raj Kumar Rao is a natural actor and I am a big fan of him. The chemistry between the two of them is great and makes their relationship genuine. 

The movie has a great mix of humor and emotions and engages you throughout the movie.

The movie starts as a romantic comedy but it handles the stigma put on LGBTQ by society very well. It gives out the message to the society that these people also have the same life like a heterosexuals person have. They can have kids too. 

3. Majja Maa

Genre : Family Drama/Comedy

Platform : Amazon Prime Video 

Rating : 4.5/5

This movie has a special place in my heart because Madhuri Dixit played the role of Pallavi. A Gujarati middle aged house wife who took every decision for the family in spite of being the victim. Pallavi' s story is heartbreaking. This also addresses LGBTQ with different points of view. 

About the Movie: 

Majja ma directed by Anand Tiwari. It shows Gujarati culture and devoted housewife life has turned upside down with the rumour. A truth about her became a threat to her son's life on the eve of his engagement with an NRI girl. 

Why do I like it?

The main reason is Madhuri Dixit who played such a bold role. A middle aged housewife's past becomes obstacles for her son's life. How she tackles the situation is portrayed brilliantly. I can feel her fear and every decision made for the sake of his son. His husband's acting is natural. I can feel his pain and confusion too. The way he is unable to understand what is lesbian is put out on screen brilliantly. This film makes me laugh, cry and sad too. Finally a good family movie with a great message. 

CONCLUSION: 

After watching these 3 movies my perspective has changed towards LGBTQ community. 

Love has no gender. Love is love it can come in many forms. I respect the LGBTQ community.

Yes, they are also human beings and they have a right to live their life the way they want. We don't know if one of them might be from our family too. Be humble and kind and more acceptable towards them. 

Question of the day 

Do you meet such kind of person? 

Have you watched any of the above movies? 

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A RECIPE THAT REMINDS YOU OF SOMEONE #BlogchatterFoodFest

As a mom I love to cook for my family. Whenever we make new recipe it always remind me of my father because he was foodie and he loved to eat varieties of food. But the condition is it should be delicious 🤤  My love for cooking is because of him. My regret is I was unable to feed him varieties of food as per his choice. 

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Dosa is not our family food. Our family means my maternal family. When I was young and high school students very few times my mom made it.  I don't have love hate relationships with dosa. But my mother didn't like it to make it or to eat.

Why?

The answer is my father. Yep! He was the person who wanted everything perfect in his meal. Whether it is salt, oil, masalas, crispy or softness, he wanted each tiny thing perfect.

And my mom is not Sugaran means not a trained cook. She barely managed to make three meals in a day with such a complaining husband. 😁

(Dosa is the recipe which reminds me of my late father and Shaila Kaki - my neighbour.) 😍

Shaila Kaki is the one who made the perfect dosa. When I was working girl we shifted to a new place. We had beautiful and sweet neighbours Shaila Kaki. She always made delicious recipes and gave them to her Kaka which means my father. 

And my father loved to eat dosa from her hand only. She used to buy a readymade mixture of dosa batter and had a non stick pan on which she made a very thin and crispy dosa. According to my father dosa should be thin and crispy and should be big.

And so that I learnt from her how to spread the dosa mixture on the pan. At that time I didn't like to cook meals at all. But after watching Shaila Kaki and her food experiment I started to have an interest in cooking.

My father passed away. It's been one year. Whenever I make dosa it reminds me of my father. 

🥹 After my marriage I used to make dosa whenever I visited my father. He always said, you people can't make dosa like Shaila Kaki and I argued a little bit and fed him 😜 

🥹 In last three years we had video calls most of the time. Whenever I made dosa I purposely called him, showed him that I learnt to make perfect dosa as per your expectations and he laughed. 

🥹 Though I use non stick pan or iron pan. Though I made perfect dosa but my Father never gets satisfied while eating it.

🥹 I remember, Shaila Kaki shifted to another place but my father always compared our dosa with Shaila Kaki's dosa and never satisfied.

Finally at this age at 40 I understand making dosa is a speciality of Shaila Kaki. I accepted my father loved her dosa only and we both sisters can't make it as per his expectations.😑

I accepted there are very few dishes which my father loved to eat. Dosa, puranpoli, dry fish and Mutton related all dishes which require an experienced hand and I am still in the learning process. 

These foods and memories bring tears in my eyes and the quarrel I had with my father brings a smile on my face. 

Sum up : 

Moreover I can say the beauty of these food memories transport me back to the time we spent with my father and family. And now we are only having those memories. 

I am missing my father with every food that he loved. 

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MARTHI BOOKS RECOMMENDATION

आजच्या लेखात मी लहान मुलांसाठी मराठी पुस्तकांची माहिती देणार आहे. लहान मुले म्हणजे ६ महिनीच्या बाळापासून ते शिशु वर्गात जाणाऱ्या मुलाकरता ही पुस्तकं खूप उपयोगी आहेत. लेख पूर्ण वाचा आणि शेअर करा parents सोबत. 

आजकाल मुलांना मराठी वाचता येतं नाही. इंग्रजी भाषेत त्यांचं education होते त्यामुळे मराठी भाषेकडे दुर्लक्ष होते. खरेतर आपण parents English books लवकर घेतो आणि मराठी पुस्तके नाही घेत. तसेही लहान मुलांना मराठी पुस्तके आवडतील तसे उपलब्ध पण नाहीत. 

पण शोधले की सगळं मिळते. 

मला सुद्धा ही पुस्तके मिळायला वेळच लागला पण मला खूप आवडली. Especially माझ्या ट्वीन मुलींना सुद्धा. 

तसे हे पुस्तक 1 वर्षांपासूनचा मुलासाठी आहेत. पण तुम्ही लहान बाळाला सुद्धा वाचून दाखवू शकता. जर तुमची मुले शाळेत जातं असतील तर त्यांचासाठी पण खूपच Helpful होतील. जर तुमची मुलं मराठी वाचताना अडखळत असतील तर नक्की हि पुस्तके Helpful आहेत. 

Books : Children 

Gener : Non fiction 

Name : 

१ . बोबु आणि अंड 

२. बालाचा बेडूकमित्र 

३. भोपळ्याची बी 

४. लीला आणि फुलपाखरू 

५. नोना आणि सफरचंदाचे झाड 

Illustration by 

Kanchan Shine and @ Radhika tipnis

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT THESE BOOKS 

यात लहान मुल आणि प्राणी आणि त्यांचा birth चित्रातून दाखवले आहेत. आर्ट illustration खूप छान आहे. मुलांना खुप सोप्या भाषेत सांगितलं आहे. 

उदाहरण: 

अंड्यातून कोंबडी कशी येते?

छोटया बी पासून सफरचंदाचे झाड कसे होते?

फुलपाखरं कसे तयार होते?

बी पासून मोठा भोपळा कसा तयार होतो आणि भोपळ्याने तानपुरा कसा बनवतात?

बेडकाची लाइफ सायकल तर खूपच छान आहे. 

Overall, the colourful picture, illustration and small sentences are the main attraction of this book. 

पुस्तक आतून कसे आहे हे इथे बघा. मला आणि माझ्या मुलींना खूपच आवडले आहे. तुम्हाला सुद्धा नक्की आवडेल. 

If you are looking for a Toddler/baby books in marathi then check out these collections.

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT THESE BOOKS 

Illustration is awesome. I am using these books for my babies when they were 12 months old. They still love it. Babies love to see the colourful picture and try to connect with pictures easily. 

For big child who are toddler or started kindergarten will also love it. With illustration kids will easily understand the life cycle of butterflies, frogs, and pumpkin. Small sentence make the story more attentive. If your child is learning marathi then also it will be good options. If you have baby or toddler then you must read aloud them. 

WHAT INSIDE THE BOOK 

Life cycle of Frog, Butterfly, pumpkin, apple , and cock. Everything in marathi. Check out the video here. 

Books are available on Amazon. 

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Inculcating Healthy Nutrition In Children #63PercentMoreProtein

We all know the importance of healthy nutrition. It becomes even more important for children to have healthy nutritious foods daily so that they can have sufficient nutrients and have a healthy life. Most of our essential nutrient intake comes from the food we eat. Protein, one such essential nutrient can be found in eggs, milk, red lentils, yoghurt, cheese, fish, chicken, and tofu, some good sources of protein. 

DO OUR CHILDREN GET HEALTHY NUTRITION? 

Recently I saw a reel on social media about the deficiency of protein in a children's diet. Parents are worried because kids are eating too many carbs like pizzas and burgers and so they are not meeting their protein requirements. Are our young ones healthy?

As parents, it is up to us to understand what protein is, what the benefits of protein in kids’ diets are and how it leads to healthy nutrition. Protein is one of the important macronutrients in a kid’s diet. Protein is needed for kids’ growth - growth of hair, nails and muscles. It also helps with their immunity. 

BENEFITS OF PROTEIN : 

Protein plays a very important role in bodily functions and, the recovery and repair of tissue in the muscles, hair, blood, nails and organs. 

Hence growing kids have to meet the minimum requirements of protein from their diet. You can get the details on the quantity of protein your child needs according to age here. 

These all are scientific data but when I was a child, growing up in a Maharashtrian family, my parents never counted nutrients from the food. It was easier for us to have a balanced diet. But my mother understood that I needed that extra help and she used to add Complan to my milk. It was a win-win because I didn’t like plain milk. I got to have flavoured milk and my mother got to ensure I was getting nutrition. 

She bought a big tin of Complan and gave it to me daily. I happily drank it as a milkshake because it was yummy! Yes, I was a Complan girl😜 

HOW TO ADD PROTEIN TO YOUR KIDS DIET?  

1. Use all protein-rich food daily.

2. Give your kids boiled eggs, omelette, or scrambled egg or egg sandwiches. 

3. Lentils and sprouts are good sources of protein. Make dosa or cutlets for kids. 

4. Milk is our all-time trustworthy protein source. 

5. Yogurt, lassi, smoothie and buttermilk are other options.

6. Fry paneer or tofu. Use them in parathas or make cutlets.

7. Chicken fry, chicken kabab or chicken wrap are also good options.

Now my daughter is growing and having the same tantrums about eating protein-based food.  However, as a mother, I have found milk as my partner where we can get protein. She also doesn't like to drink plain milk. She always insists on adding chocolate powder or cocoa powder but it only adds to flavour. Instead of that, just like my mother, I have been giving her Complan only. 

While I trusted Complan as I grew up drinking it, I also believe in the nutrition that it provides to children. It is better than other protein powders for kids and let me tell you why.

WHY COMPLAN? 

Firstly, I drank it in my childhood and it helped me and it aided my growth.

Secondly, it's the fact that Complan has 34 vital nutrients including 100% milk protein and vitamins and minerals that support concentration and memory. It also has 63% more protein than other nutrition drinks and supports 2x faster growth in kids.

CONCLUSION:

Protein is an essential part of a healthy nutrition diet in children. From growing kids to adults everyone needs protein. The best option is to have a balanced diet and make a habit of drinking milk twice a day. Don’t forget to add Complan to make it more delicious.

Till then Happy Parenting. 

Disclaimer:  I am not a professional dietician. This is a part of the public awareness initiative supported by Complan. The views expressed in the blog post are independent.

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FATHER

GRATITUDE  🙏🙏🙏

For my late Father on account of first death anniversary 26 May 2024.

Father, dad, and pappa!

Is the whole world for a daughter. 

If it is slightly tilted,

I used to get fear

Fear 

Of losing you,

Fear 

Unable to understand how you feel,

Fear

What will happen to you,

Fear

Will I be able to comprehend,

Fear

How will I live without you 

I spent almost 3 years in this fear,

Fear,

It has gotten worse in the last two years,

Fear 

Of not recovering,

Fear 

You don't want to live, 

That is the most difficult fear I have gone through.

Today,

You are a free soul,

Free from pain and emotions, 

Free from achievements, worries 

and every tiny thing 

Which hurts you more.

Today 

You are a happy soul

And I feel it is  the best time 

To tell you,

I am grateful 🙏 

To have you, as a father,

To teach me how to think,

To teach me how to be tough,

To teach me how to overcome the difficulties,

To teach me how to be kind,

To teach me how to be a good human being,

And want to say hundreds of sorry 

For 

not listening to you,

not being a good daughter,

not being able to stand as per your expectations,

not being successful in my career the way you want,

A few times,

being rude to you, 

judging you for the thing I didn't get,

hurting you when you don't understand me,

Today I want to hug you 

I want to tell you,

I love you,

I respect you,

I admire you,

I am proud of you for your achievements,

And for being my inspiration.

I always remember your advice 

Always follow the path,

You suggested me,

Pappa, 

I know you are watching us,

I know you are with us,

I pray, for your peace,

Wherever you are,

Stay happy!

Love,

Your loving daughter 

Author 

Neeta kadam 

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GLOBAL VIPASSANA PAGODA

The Global Vipassana Pagoda was built out of gratitude to the Buddha, his teaching and the community of monks practicing his teaching.

The Pagoda is the ancient structure of Buddha temples. Monks stayed there for all seasons, meditated and worshipped Buddha. Buddhist temples are the Pagoda. At this place, you will definitely find peace. You will not see any beggars near these Pagoda. No coconut seller, no sweet shops, no flowers, no garland nothing. There is no such kind of market nearby any Buddhist Pagoda and that is the speciality of Buddha temples.

WHAT IS GLOBAL VIPASSANA PAGODA? 

Global Vipassana Pagoda is the place where you can meditate under a special course of meditation. The course and code of conduct are prescribed by Sri Goyanka Sir.  In this  residential meditation 10-day course you have to follow a special code of conduct and rules. You will find transformations in yourself after finishing this Vipassana. 

WHAT IS THE SPECIAL THINGS ABOUT  GLOBAL VIPASSANA PAGODA?

Global Vipassana Pagoda is one of the seven wonders of Maharashtra. 

Global Vipassana Pagoda is a notable monument in Mumbai, India which serves for peace and harmony. 

The monument was inaugurated by Pratibha Patil, President of India on 8th February 2009. 

WHERE IS IT LOCATED?

It is located in the North of Mumbai on a peninsula between Gorai Creek and the Arabian Sea. 

THE STRUCTURE OF THE GLOBAL VIPASSANA PAGODA 

⛩️ It is a traditional Burmese design that is an expression of gratitude towards the country of Myanmar for preserving the practice of Vipassana. 

⛩️ The shape of the pagoda is a copy of the Shwedagon Pagoda in Yangon, Myanmar.

⛩️ Inside of the Pagoda is a hollow large meditation hall where 8000 people can meditate at one time. 

⛩️ The centre of the Global Vipassana Pagoda contains the world’s largest stone dome built free spanning (without support).

The full details of the structure can be read here 

THE PURPOSE OF THE PAGODA:

The main purpose of Global Vipassana Pagoda is to express gratitude to Gautam Buddha for his teaching to eradicate suffering. 

To educate the people about the life and teachings of Buddha.

To provide a place for meditation for the public. 

WHAT IS VIPASSANA ?

➡️ Vipassana is the one way to achieve inner peace. Vipassana is the mediation technique discovered by Gautam Buddha. It was taught by Gautam Buddha to eradicate the illness from our life. 

➡️ It focuses on the deep interconnection between mind and body. It is a deep breathing technique.

➡️ This technique is taught by the teacher at a 10-day meditation course during which participants have to follow prescribed code of conduct, learn the basics and practice to achieve the result. 

➡️ Vipassana is a self-transformation through self-observation. 

➡️ The entire process is mental training to develop a HEALTHY mind. 

➡️ This technique is taught free of cost. No commercial fees or remuneration charges are here.

➡️This technique was taught by Goenka Guruji. It is an insight meditation that includes scientific, non-sectarian, results-oriented techniques of self-observation and truth realization. 

WHO IS TEACHER S. N. GOYNKA? 

Satya Narayana Goenka was an Indian Teacher of Vipassana meditation. He was born in Burma to an Indian Family and he moved to India in 1969 to teach meditation.

He became an influential teacher and played an important role in establishing non-commercial Vipassana meditation centres globally. He was awarded the Padma Bhushan by the Government of India in 2012, an award given for distinguished service of high-order

(Info: Wikipedia) 

WHAT YOU WILL SEE HERE ? 

The Global Vipassana Pagoda is itself. The 7 Wonders of Maharashtra. 

The construction, the hollow meditation hall, peace, Giant statue of Gautam Buddha, Giant Ashokstamb, Rotating Dhamma Chakra, beautiful Guruji Niwas, and in overall the whole Global Vipassana Pagoda.

HOW TO REACH TO GLOBAL VIPASSANA PAGODA ?

If you are coming from Thane, Navi Mumbai then you can come by road. Prefer to have your own vehicle. You can take the bus from Thane station too. It is a 3-hour journey. 

If you are coming from Mumbai. Then get down at Borivali West station and reach the creek. You have to cross the creek by Ferry. And then you can take an auto or bus to reach this destination. 

Public transport like bus No 4, Ferry and auto rickshaw are available. 

Bus fares cost Rs.5 - 55 and Ferry costs Rs. 50 

The nearest landmark to Pagoda is Essel World or Gorai Beach. 

If you are coming with kids I will suggest taking the road route which is easy. 

And if you are coming with friends and want to do something adventurous then take the ferry ⛴️ route.

GLOBAL VIPASSANA PAGODA TIMING AND ENTRY FEE 

There is no entry fee. It is free of cost.

It is open from  9 a.m. to 7 p.m.

No external food is allowed here. 

CONCLUSION : 

Global Vipassana Pagoda is one of the 7 wonders of Maharashtra. The structure is beautiful. You must visit the place to experience the giant beauty of the construction. It is fully worked on donation. 

Global Vipassana Pagoda serves as a monument of peace and harmony.  Global Vipassana Pagoda is the meditation hub where you can do a meditation course.  It is a 10-day residential course and free of cost. Once in a lifetime, we have to do this Vipassana. It is most needed in our stressful life. Do visit once and take the magnificent experience of 10 days Vipassana. 

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