My obsession of this year : Being alone.
Yes!
I guess after crossing 40, we all feel it. We don't want to fight. We don't want to prove anything. We don't want to think about what other people think. We don't want to have any expectations from anyone. Literally anyone. And we don't want to depend on anyone emotionally.
Have you reached this stage yet?
Now I can understand why my mother used to be silent. When didn't she want to express her emotions? Why she loves to be alone. When we siblings were young, we often asked her, but she smiled and said, "I am happy the way I am."
I understand now. What is it?
Or why do we choose to be alone?
Once you crossed 40, you realized what kind of people are in your family. You consider them as a family, but everyone is different and has their own way to process life.
So here I am.
Alone with my kids. I have enjoyed my life with my kids. You can say I am a single mother. I have a healthy husband who provides us money, food, and shelter, and I am truly grateful to him.
And accept that he is too busy. Instead of making life more complicated, I think being a single mom is OKAY.
Family, especially my siblings—we used to talk a lot and love each other too much. But when talks become disputes, I choose to be silent. Because I realized once your brother married, their brain is not going to work by themselves. 😆
So just be your own. No talks, no more meetups, and no more obligation of anything.
Next come our friends, especially close friends; it may be either two or three, whatever it is. But after crossing 40, you mostly need your friends to hang out or burst out or just to be who you are. But if they are too busy, then you have to choose being alone.
That teaches you how you can take over your life by yourself. How you can handle every stress of your life by yourself.
Don't beg them to be with you, but don't rely on them too much that they will listen or be available for you. Because they might have been going through the same patch of life.
My obsession of this year is being alone.
Which literally gives me peace. In our life what matters is our family, our siblings, and our one or two close friends. But as you grew old, everyone started to be their own. They have busy lives. So accept that.
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