6 Things I learned newly as twin mom compared to single kid mom
Motherhood is the blessing and NOT everyone can have this privilege. Whether you are new mom or second time mom or third time mom, everytime you get to learn something new because every pregnancy is different and so baby too. This time with twin babies I learned lots of things newly. Twin baby is very difficult motherhood era for me due to nuclear family set up.
When you become second time mother you are more confident, right? You are NOT easily get panic when baby is crying. You know exactly what does your baby want ? Something like that happened to me too. I am pretty sure to handle everything by single handle - no - no - I am not alone, this time I have my 9 year old daughter and with her this twin motherhood journey was exciting and terrific. I am always grateful to the God for giving me my darling.
When my elder ONE born I was emotional for everything like cleanliness, baby food, baby bath, baby emotions etc. As compared to that, this time I am barely care. I keep them crying because I know the reason and if I can't get back in that time . So let it be for some time. ๐๐
Yes! Sometimes you have to be practical.
Things I learnt as a twin mom, that every mom should learn if possible. I can say this is the way you can enjoy your motherhood journey calmly. Yes. Calmly!
It is quite difficult to be calm but with practice you can be a calm mom. Anger and irritation is the part of motherhood. I can't say we should avoid this. It is not at all possible. But we can minimise it. Because if we are happy then family is happy.
Sharing what I learnt and survive ๐
Swaddling /Comfort:
Your baby sleep well when you swaddle her or him properly. I had the experience, but this time I am so confident about it like the length of swaddling clothes, how to swaddle and how tight or loose you can swaddle and the most important how quickly you can swaddle the crying baby in a minute. My twins had 2 to 3 hour undisturbed sleep.
I swaddled them after bath, in the afternoon and mostly at night. I used to give swaddle less time when they felt uncomfortable. Baby's comfort is the most important thing which helps them in sleeping.
Sleep schedule :
This is totally new to me. With my older one I never took any efforts to have strict sleep schedule because I didn't need that. You can say as a new mom I never keep HER away from me. So I never understand the importance of sleep schedule.
I have been told from first day of my baby to have strict sleep schedule then only you can have REST!
And I mean it. So I literally wrote sleep time of my babies in my diary. Due to Instagram I am able to know the sleep pattern of babies. I STUDY that and it is helpful. I try to follow the strict schedule and so my babies were no more cranky. They had full sleep. I had quite manageable time.
Now they are 15 months old and still we follow sleep schedule strictly. Current sleep schedule is after every 4 HR gap . Sleep May remain upto 2 HR and some time it stretches to 4 HR too with feeding.
Happy Me !
Connect to babies
This is new because I am able to connect with both of them. They are good observer and quick learner. I didn't teach them. They observe and follow. Talk, activity, songs, play are the part of connection. Babies love to connect with you. They eager to talk with you. They listen and understand. Yes, it is true. It is very important to take out time to set the connection. Because with twins daily schedule is quite hectic.
Tandem Breastfeeding twin
When I was pregnant I was worried about feeding. How can I feed my both twins? I saw tons of video and try to educated myself.
I learned Tandem feeding where you can feed your twins at the same time. The day I reached home after my hospital session, very first time I tried Tandem Feeding and voila. I succed! Only difficulty was to burp them . But slowly I learnt that.
When my friend saw this they feel surprised and sometimes pitty. But I am happy that I can breastfeed them and both are healthy fulfilled. (Touch wood)๐
Your gut than everyone's advise
During this period I always trust my gutt. Yes! Mumma. Your gut feeling is always accurate 90% rather than any parenting books. Do not act even according to advice given by the visitors. They always told you their experience. Everyone motherhood journey is different. So listen, learn but don't apply blindly. Trust your instincts and your knowledge.
Let them free from you
The more baby free from you more they learn to play independently. Try to give them floor time as much as possible. Being a twin mom it is very important to cuddle both of them. Cuddling, hugging and playing always together. They able to play more with each other.
Okay, let me confess,
Twin motherhood is the most difficult journey for me. I cried a lot. Feel guilty and most of the times feel depressed too.
But.
I reminded myself it was our decision. I was mentally prepared for this journey. And I was the most happiest person in my family when we came to know that we had twins.
Instead of that stress I concentrate -
๐ To flow with current direction.
๐ Time is temporary.
๐ Every day is new challenge and it will end soon.
๐ Tried to fill up every day with loads of love.
๐ Filled the home with lots of laughter, being connected with each other and every one work as a family.
๐ Last but not the least less bothered about how my house look like?
I kept my house baby friendly so my baby can move around the whole house and I don't need to check them on again and again. We put out all furniture in our balcony and make the room spacious.
Yes, it was difficult, for me and our family too. But the way these tiny human being watching me, depending on me, hug me and love me, I forgot everything and charged automatically to be with them.
I believe I am the lucky ones and so always grateful to the Universe for giving me the opportunity of twin motherhood.
Comparatively I enjoyed this twin motherhood journey mindfully and this is the best phase of my life where I learnt lots of things which helps me to develop in a better human being.
Question for the day?
Do you take life challenge positively? Do you cry more or challenge your self?
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