Five mantra for loving relationship

Happy Valentine 2019, with lots of hugs, kiss, chocolates, roses and gifts and dosages of love.

Have you wonder how our parents are still together? How much they love each other? They are so indifferent and opposite to each other, but still they are together. Both of them have lots of complaints about each other but still they cannot leave without each other and have a care for each other. Do you have such type of confidence about your relationship? will be like this when you grew older? If yes, then skip the post!! But if you are a struggling couple then please have a look in it, it might will helpful to you. After having kids, it is very difficult to keep love in your relationship, yes or no? So let’s discuss what the loopholes are!

Ok guys; tell me how many of you are still goes on date with your spouse? I know you must be surprising what question I am asking. Yes we are married for a years and I am asking to go on dating! But trust me once you tried it, you will start to find love again. Try to meet your spouse on date beside your kids and family members. You will definitely find a new meaning to your life. Do try to goes on such date – (with your spouse only 😅😍 )at least once in two months and see the drastic change.

We are in male dominated society especially in India and our mother used to tell us that we girls need to change ourselves according to the husband and in-laws. Because we don’t have an identity without our husband, aren’t we? Though there are single woman parents too…! Though she has a career, job and all that, but without husband a lady have no identity. So how many of you changed yourself according to the family requirement? I guess, we all! Right! After all what we want is to have a happy home with happy and loving people. That’s make a true home …yes or no mommies? 

Though I am not a professional, still I want to give 5 mantras to have love in your relationship forever.  Husband and wife are the two wheels of our van and while fulfilling all the responsibility we tend to forget each other. Follow this easy pessy mantras, or hacks, or tips whatever you may call, with patience and feel the changes. 

Communication: Do there is need to hide something from your spouse? I guess no, if you have regular communication at least 5 to 10 minutes in a day.  For the sake of peace, being a silence will not only increase a distance between husband and wife but it will create lot of assumption about each other. That will create wrong impression and it will get carry forward throughout the life, which is not good. Do speak with each other, I mean speak not fight. Do not create any assumption which controls your mind. It will lead to very difficult situation. Try to share each and every thing with your spouse. That will boost the respect and dispute level will really come down. I know some of the couple finds very difficult to have a talk, but believe me just give out a try to have a communication and sharing your views in polite manner. Do try from this valentine and see the result. I think half of your problem will solve.

Trust: No matter whatever happens always trust each other. If you have communication habit, the trust will generate automatically. Communication means to share a small small things whatever happen in day to day life, your feeling, your expectation, your weakness, what has gone wrong or right etc. Remember do not try to prove that “I AM RIGHT” thing. Do trust each other and there will no right or wrong person thought cater your mind. Half of the problem starts with this only “Who is the right”. Communication is the key of TRUST.

Love : Are you finding it is difficult to maintain? How many times do you hug, or kiss each other? These small things always matter. Keep beside your so called ego and hug each other, say “Love You”, it sound funny like a teenagers, but trust me do try once and make a habit of this. Be available for your spouse in your busy schedule life, because your precious time is means to him or her. Rings, gifts, Gold, Diamond, Apparel, Accessories….these are doesn’t matter if you do not have a little bit time for each other. Love is always in sharing small things and not in big pocket gift.

No Expectation: This is last but not the least tip. Please try to minimize your expectation. Half of the quarrels began with this word expectation. I know this is quite difficult. We used to expecting from our spouse without saying anything. We are under impression that she or he might get understand automatically, and when it does not happen, your heart will broke and that leads to the disappointment. Instead of that lower down your expectation. Once you have kids, you reached at certain level of maturity, use that. Still if it not works just tell him or her upfrontly what are you expecting, it will cost you nothing. 

Accept : This is the last but very important tip . Accept how is your spouse is. Never try to change him or her. We ladies always changed as per our parents wish, then our husbands wish and then as per our kids requirement. Try to accept your wife as she is or try to accept your husband the way he is. But this does not mean that you should accept his or her wrong behavior. Remember first mantra – communication- this will always help you. When you accept something the way it is, you will be going to have peaceful mind and so peaceful family.

Lastly I will strongly recommend try to keep your quarrels between husband and wife’s only. Don’t give out the stress to your parents and do not try to have mediator. After all this is our life, we are going to stay forever with each other. So try to resolve the issue by yourself only.

I used lot of quotes because I started to follow this mindfulness and hence want to have a peace in your life. Once you start to follow it will really help you to bring out the best person in you. 

I hope this gyan will help you to settle down your relationship. Make this valentine special with your spouse by giving out your precious time. Celebrate it with lots of love and happiness.

What is your special mantra to maintain the relationship? Comment down please.

PS. Images from pexels
Quotes from tiny buddha

Painting by incredible Artist

Happy February,

the month of love. Everyone must be searching a gift for the loved one right..? Want to give some artistic thing instead of rose and cake? Off course without rose and cake valentine is incomplete, but the artistic painting will give more weightage to your celebration, don’t you think? Then you are at the right place, just hop in to the post and you will definitely find some incredible artwork.

By Srilekha

I am talking about some extraordinary artist, the artist who makes paintings with their mouth and foot. Surprised…!! Even I surprised when I received the below parcel with post cards and greeting cards. Some of you might know about this, some may be not, but yes it gives me strength towards my willing power. If you really have willing power, you can do whatever you want without any distraction. It is only the attitude which describes who you are!

When I opened the packet and saw such a beautiful cards, my eyes teared up! We people have every body parts but still we are not satisfied. Look at this people, they are disabling, but their painting does show an extraordinary artwork. I received post card and greeting card. Have a look to the great work which is done by mouth and feet. 

It is MFPA (mfpa) (Mouth and Foot Painting Artist). The association constantly seeking promising new talent among the disabled. The primary objective of the association is to bring the aesthetic creation of disabled artist by providing them a platform to express their talent. The Association wants to instill in its members a sense of freedom and dignity as well as an opportunity to earn an independent, honest secured livelihood through the sale of their hard work. The association invites anyone who has lost the use of their hands and paints by holding the brush in their mouth or with their feet, regardless of race, creed or colour. The Association has more than 800 artists from 74 countries. (Info from the website).

The artwork by extraordinary artist:(All the below images from the mfpa website)

Painting by foot painter 

Mouth painting

In India the association currently supports 20 member artists from across the country. These members are of different cultural background from Jammu-Kashmir to Kanyakumari. They regularly work from their home and submit the artwork to the Association. Some of the artist received the prestigious award for outstanding creativity. One of them is Ms. Sunita Trippanikkara – Mouth Painter, receive prestigious National Award from the Honourable President of India, Mr. Ram Nath Kovind.

Meet some Artist:

Manoj Bhingare

Manjibhai Ramani

Sheela Sharma

Do visit the website for more details and shop from there so we can contribute something to them. They do not want any charity. In fact they deserve the good amount of money and recognition for their artwork. They have paintings, Mugs, Calendars, Greeting Cards, T-shirts, Gift tag and bookmarks, Note cards, Mounted Canvas, Desktop painting, table mats and many more. Shop from the site www.mfpa.org for the valentine celebration and put some valuable blessing towards your Karmic account.

The Mumbai address: A-401 Dipti Classic, Suren Road, Andheri East, Mumbai- 400093

Mouth painting

I love to do painting. But after seeing all this incredible work from such artist I have no words to describe, yess…it is a therapy. For me painting is meditation which heals your mind!!

What is your opinion about this? Do you agree with me?

Unique gift ideas for Haldi Kumkum

As soon as Makarsankranti is over, you will start getting invitation for Haldi Kumkum. This is the social gathering of married women for exchange of Haldi and Kumkum for the long life of their respective husbands. Haldi means yellow turmeric powder and Kumkum is Red turmeric powder or vermillion, it is symbol of married women. It is a Hindu festival hostess by a married woman for married women. All women gather together, exchange haldi kumkum along with tilgul – sweet laddo made by til and jaggery and give (vaan) small return gift too.

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History: (Info from goggle) …This haldi kumkum started from the Peshwa (Maratha Ruler) Maharashtra State. Queen of the Peshwa invite other married women for this ceremony. All married women exchange haldi kumkum and prayed to the God for the long life of their husband. The queen also gave all this women a beautiful sari and with blouse piece and coconut and grain of rice. The tradition started from this period and it is still followed by all Maharashtrian women during all the auspicious day like marriage, baby shower or namkaran of baby etc. 

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Anyway the topic is the unique gift idea for this haldi kumkum ceremony – so I am giving you the ideas which are pocket friendly. We usually host the event and invite many friends. It is very difficult to choose the most beautiful gift. So I am there to help you out.

I am categorized this gift item as per our (women’s) requirement. So let’s start -

Kitchen items: if your guest list is more than 50 and your budget is low then try to give some useful items of kitchen.

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1.  Juicer: It cost (small one) around 60 to 75 /- which is also    very good gift item.

2.  Steel vessels: Steel is always a healthy, so try to give out anything of steel in smaller size. The gift items are like steel bowl, glass, oil container, spoon, small plate, spatula, cheese grater, strainer, steel container for spices etc.

3. Beverage item: Try to give small sachet of Tea, coffee, oats, corn flex etc.

Bathroom items: These are most consuming product which we can offer as a gift-

1.       Small jugs or mugs used in bathroom

2.       Soap dispenser

3.       Small size soap and shampoo(there are many variety)

4.       Dishwasher packet or hand wash packet.

5.       Small size Colgate packets

6.       Rugs or brush

Yup….it looks funny but tries to give out some useful items which are in our budget. I used to get all this things.

Makeup Category: We women love to do make up..!! So why should not give any make up related gift items? But make sure it should be of a nice quality. If budget is no issue then you can gift the items which are made for specially travels.

1.       Oil container.

2.       Talcum powder in small packets of any brand.

3.       Lotion or moisturizers.

4.       Kajal and bangles specially kadas.

5.       Nail Polish or Lip Pencils.

6.       Comb: try to give out the wooden one.

7.       Clutches or tic- tac pins or hair bands.

8.       Small Mirror.

9.       Face wash or face pack sachet.

The list will be going on. Do try to give out the best as you can.

Next will be some more realistic gift items which one really liked by everyone.

1. Recipe Book: you can give out small recipe book including all cousins.

2. Photo Album: Go online you can get a number of varieties of small photo albums.

3. Photo Frame: There are so many website or local shops too which provide very beautiful photo frames. 

4. Bags: Bags are the most favorite items of our, yes or no mommies? There are so many varieties of items in bags like – sling bags, potali bags, clothes bags specially made up of Sarri borders, small coin bags, and small mobile holders which is made up of woolen etc.

5. Last but not the list you can give out the pot with Tulsi plant. This is one of the unique gifts which look precious but it cost nothing to our pocket.

I hope all mommies; you can get the ideas for gift items. Do let me know what gift items you pick for your haldi kumkum ceremony. Don’t forget to send me beautiful images of yours.

 Disclaimer : All pics are from google .

Review of 2018

Yup, I am quite late for this post. The post was ready, but my laptop was not ready to publish the post. What whirlwind 2018. Really it was like roller and coaster, which give me a lot of push towards positivity. This 2018 give me the taste of success and teach how to respond to the negativity.  Every bitter experience gives you a new lesson and confidence to boost with your problems. Ahh.....I don't want to give any bitterness to my viewers😝. But in short , yes this is the best year of my life. Lets rewind it.....

31st December 2017 at 11.30 p.m. I had bad accident in which I got stitches towards my middle area of two eyebrows. ykkkk…..yess…. It was 31st December celebration night, towards the end of the party game met with the accident. At midnight we ran to the hospital and got the 4 stitches above my right eye. What a great start of 2018! I am about to loose my eyes, but for God sake that didn't happened. 

The first lesson of 2018 which teach me to have positive vibes over a negativity.

New member in our family....Avengers 150,...Mr. Hubby's most awaited dream....I can see the achievement in his eyes!!

Mr. Hubby

This is the very first stage performance of my daughter. She used to cry whenever listen music on DJ with loud speaker. Whether it's GaneshChaturthi, Navratri or a marriage baraat, whenever she listened the DJ music, tend to sit on my laps and even don't get down on floor. This dance surprised us that she tried to manage to cope up with her fear.

Her first dance of Subby Dubby...from Three Idiot. Like every parent we also feel proud specially for her courage.

My childhood hobby is to learn dance with proper institute, where as that was not happen but yes, I learned Zumba - Dance Exercise, with my mentor : Mrs. Shubhangi. Thank you Shubhangi for 💃, Please check out the detailed post on Zumba here. link : https://www.memoryflies.com/2018/05/zumba-fitness.html

I really missed all of you buddies.

Next, yup....me and Anu (my friend....people used to say that we are sisters..👩👩) learned Four Wheeler. We still need to do a lot of practice to go on road....ha...ha...ha.... but yes we got the License and have the best time yess or no Anu ? Yes she is the one who taught me how to overcome to your fear and taught me scooty.

Getaway : We have three getaway this year unexpectedly and unplanned. The most awaiting my dream tour is Kashmir. The trip is the most memorable in my life. Heaven is heaven !!For detailed post please check out the link :

https://www.memoryflies.com/2018/05/shikara-ride-on-dal-lake.html

Small tour like Shaniwarwada and Sihagad was also gave a warmth experience. Pune is always on my wish list and will love to explore more there. yup....the post is on the way.

with my mother in law ( Atteysasu)

The first birthday of my nephew (my brothers son), which was enjoyed by himself so calmly without a single tantrum. We  were surprised that he enjoyed a lot. Otherwise you know how was the 1st birthday party,tantrum, crying baby and irritating parents. But yes we have a nice birthday party.

with betterhlaf

Almost after 30 years I met my childhood friend Mr. Nitin Divekar. We are almost together from Senior Kg up to completion of graduation but never talked with each other. We were in the same class up to grade 4th. Then share the same high school, same tutions and even same college but don't have a communication.😐quite strange! He found me through Facebook and have a meet up and chat like we never had through the life.

It was like my all childhood memories come in front of eyes. How we used to spend the day in school, the Teachers who love us more than any other students, our favorite teachers, (Sadhana mam,😊 we still miss you, hope you are reading!), friends and family. Husshh….how long this journey is from childhood to settled life with our kids! Really feeling blessed to have happy family and old friends.

Some creativity...Diwali special..😜

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Love to mingle with small kids always. Kids are the best refreshment, I believe it, do you? Here is the celebration pics with my kiddos. Love you all my children.

How was your 2018? Have you looked back ? Share your one of the best memory of 2018 in the comment section.

Happy Makarsankrant 2019

It’s 2019, new start, new refreshment, new goals. Wishing all of you, a healthy, happy and positive 2019.

Makarsankrant: It is the first hindu festival of 2019. The festival itself suggests having a new start without keeping any disputes in your mind with anyone and have healthy relationship. As it said, “Tilgul Ghya ani God God bola” (it’s in Marathi, means take the laddo of til and talk sweet). Forget whatever happened in the 2018 and have a new start to your relationship. So guys I will suggest you to take the advantage of this festival and strengthen your broken relationship.

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India is diversified country where the one festival is celebrated all over India with different name and rituals. It has different names like it is called Makarsankrant in Maharashtra, Bihu in Aasam, Lohri in Punjab, Pongal in Tamilnadu and Bhogi in AndhraPradesh. January is the harvest season where you can find multiple of local produce abundantly which is worshipped on this day. The method of worship is different according to the region. Every ritual suggest to destroy all your negative thought on this auspicious day and have positivity towards your life. Try to apply from this day and have wonderful year ahead.

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Generally we celebrated by making delicious food and distributing Til Gul, yes or no guys? I love this festival, specially love to prepare and eat Tilgul Laddo. How many of you love to eat this? And now my daughter is also going on the same track. She love to eat this laddo. Just finished one batch and we already eating half of them.

I love to make our family favorite rice kheer along with this Laddo. For detail recipe please click on this link : https://memoryflies.blogspot.com/2016/10/first-anniversary-of-memory-flies.html

Image : Memory Flies

In Maharashtra the delicious food is prepared like Bhogichi Bhaji is made by using variety of vegetables. Laddo, Tilachi poli - til (sesame) and Jaggary mixture, and Puran poli - chana dal and jaggary mixture.

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Our festival teach us to stay with the root and enjoy each rituals with this. Every food have its own nutritional value according to the season and we must eat that which is much healthier option rather than packaged food. Todays in this readymade world I would suggest that we should prepare all this seasonal recipe and teach to our next generation. Otherwise our Marathi dishes will get lost. I request to all Mommies, please take out the time and try to prepare all this dishes with your kids.

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I am signing off with  “Til Gul ghya ani God God bola”. Don’t forget to comment down below with pictures of your delicious recipe which you made on this Makarsankrant Day ?

Happy Makarsankranti 2019.